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I Am Confused About My Relationship

I admit my partner and I had relationship problems in the past and currently in healing process. But then I come to realise a guy I used to like a long time ago single right now. I have no intention of breaking up and going to him (which is impossible because he's living in another country) and I don't know how he feels about me but I keep thinking of him all day and have these urge to tell him how I feel. I don't know if these feelings are byproduct of my vulnerable situation but I am really confused. I want to stay in my current relationship with my partner who is finally working things out but I am struggling to control my feelings for the other guy.

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Nanori · F

You have those "what if"s floating in your head right now. Your relationship has had difficulties but your imagination of that other guy has been happy and peaceful, your brain wants comfort that's why it's giving you those thoughts.

JBird · F

@Nanori I think so. Thank goodness, he's in another country.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

Your current guy may be trying to work it out. But it may be too late.... Once lines are crossed, or recrossed several times, often the feelings die...

TaintedDoll · 31-35, F

Honestly, if this is your train of thought, I dont think you need to be in a relationship right now. You need to take time to get back in touch with yourself. Tell your boyfriend you want to take a break. Take some time apart so you both can figure yourselves out. The feelings you're having for the other guy are more than likely just your mind telling you "it's tough now and that SUCKS, remember when it was fun with that other guy?" Ignore that. It's a self-destructive train of thought.

SW-User

the fact that you call your situation vulnerable means this dude isn’t the one

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SW-User

@JBird bf

JBird · F

@SW-User and there's a chance other guy isn't.

SW-User

@JBird idc if I sound immature but if ur bf is making you question yourself he’s toast

Reflection2 · 36-40, M

Complicated. Living with someone and thinking about some one else. Speak to your current boy friend because he doesn't deserve it

Paliglass · 41-45, F

Get out that relationship. He's started working stuff out and you're thinking about someone else...your heart isn't actually in it.

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