He drinks too much..he knows this, but he insists he is handling it alone. He isn't though, he's falling deeper into it. Ho long do you watch a person lie to themselves before having to step away for your own sanity?
If he's not doing anything to stop drinking, then either you accept him as he is or you move on. Sitting and watching him go downhill will be very painful. I've done it.
If he won't get help... Get help alone. There are plenty of people who go to AA and alanon??? Idk if I spell that right. They go alone to help their loved ones.
Idk you... So please don't take this next thing the wrong way... But u might be codependent .. it's possible... But idk.. sooo
It's one of the hardest things to watch happen to a loved one.
U still see all the good in him.
I've seen kids come in place of their parents; sometimes even both parents.
Sometimes, u can't just leave the problem and block it out of your life.
If you are already researching and trying to find ways to help him... Trying aa or Al-Anon (I think I finally got it) yourself will only help u learn more about addiction and recovery... First hand sources... They r all addicts.. every one of them. Most are willing to share.
Most meetings are only an hour. They try to make it as painless as possible.
I've nv been to a meeting that forced me to share. I've nv been to a meeting that singled me out.
I can't make u do anything, but try it... For his sake.
If he doesn’t want to improve then there is nothing you can really do. You tried and everyone makes their own decisions. Don’t let people hold you back or drag you down.
He won’t stop until he wants to,and he knows exactly what’s going on. Experience talking. I don’t know your situation but you have to decide what you can and can’t live with. I feel for you