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I Don't Believe In Love

I've grown to believe "love" is bull shit. It doesn't exist. I have never seen any evidence that it does. I grew up being told the lie that I was loved when in fact I wasn't even liked. Anyone can say they "love" someone but that doesn't mean a damn thing. And I also feel like people throw that word around carelessly so they can get away with doing dumb shit. I can't fathom how a four-letter word, that doesn't exist, runs peoples lives. It's all fairytale wishes, Disney dreams, and movie cliches that seem to delude people into thinking that something so ridiculous actually exists.
I think this is trouble with blanket statements - love exists in a variety of forms, we can even see it in brain chemistry. But the idea of love as an abstract comment is one that is hard to pin down.

Disney movies portray it as some be-all and end-all force that every human being must obtain in order to be complete. How else are you going to sell all the goods?

I don't think love is great mystery power that lies in the soul and forever binds us in happiness - instead it far more subtle and can take on many different forms. We may have love for those that we have invested our time in - friends who share in our troubles or that which we nurture. Love does not absolutely exist in the romantic sense.

Whatever form it takes, to fully appreciate what love is you may want to think on why that which exists in your self wpuld want from others, and thereby how it connects to you. A great deal of love may be in our own wants and desires, before we are able to recognise it in others

I am sorry if this response does not meet your views as they are now. But it may also be worth thinking about
I understand - I have had people in my life who have said the same. What I've written above ia largely what I wished I had told them at the time. There may come a time when you regret feeling as you do - either from guilt or regret. I've felt the same numbness towards people close to me before. This may be all the more reason to invest time into thinking about it.

I don't think you would have written what you did if you didn't recognise something that you want to address. Perhaps you can find an answer in your own time - but it would necessitate timw on your own part regardless.

If what I wrote doesn't prove useful, then move on from it. Whatever kind of live you may find (or not) will always begin wirh what you want - start there. If it doesn't lie with those in tour life as of now, then you may need to find another path forwards.

All of thia couls be useless sentiment and words in my part, but please take it into consideration
Poeticdiva31-35, F
@Jouskan47 Thanks for the comments. I will take some time to consider it.
Thabks for enduring my ramblings馃槄. All the best
maybesomeday26-30, F
Got a pet? Bet they love the heck outta you. If you don't, I recommend getting one. 馃憤
Poeticdiva31-35, F
@maybesomeday I don't even like taking care of myself, let alone a pet. Plus I forget to eat a lot and I'm sure I would starve an animal accidentally. I'm better off with a pet rock.
maybesomeday26-30, F
@Poeticdiva You'd be amazed at what you can do when you know you have responsibility for someone/something else other than yourself. There's a high possibility you will feed and give a pet the attention and care it needs, and you'll be amazed at how much it can positively affect how you feel and look after yourself as well.
Poeticdiva31-35, F
@maybesomeday Every pet I've ever had has died. I think for the sake of those poor animals, I really shouldn't. And I really don't want to be responsible for anything or anyone else. I'm a very inattentive person. I'm so used to being on my own, I would rather stay that way.
KayraJordynF
My family grew and shared it's love with us, their children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, nieces and nephews. I'm sorry you have not yet experienced it. In being in pain 24/7, I rely on their love every day, and God bless them for it. I lost four family members in three months, and my family was there, all loving each other. My guess? You've had terrible examples, though you deserved more than that! I'm sorry you didn't receive more, Poeticdiva. Truly. 馃枻
MontanamanM
@KayraJordyn 馃
I never believed in it either because my parents didn't love me but now I'm starting to realize that it actually does and that I was conditioned by abuse.
Love might not be what you expected it to be but it still exists.
MontanamanM
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peskyoneF
The Greek language has six distinct words for love: phil铆a, 茅ros, ag谩pe, storg膿, pragma, and philautia.

Perhaps, if the English language was more descriptive, we wouldn't feel so betrayed?
SW-User
This post is so heartbreaking and well written, even I don鈥檛 feel like believing in love anymore lol
Poeticdiva31-35, F
@SW-User I'm so sorry. I didn't mean for it to be that depressing.
MontanamanM
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Reflection241-45, M
The word love is used so carelessly and so frequently that it means nothing to me. Come tell me someone has kept that word for decades for the right time with right person so that no one heard of it from them but you?. I may believe that someone got lucky.
Magnolia31-35, F
I've been binge watching true crime documentaries over the past week. People go missing all the time and people are murdered every day. The raw grief from the friends and family of those victims tells me everything I need to know about true love. It's real.
MontanamanM
I know.
I know it's easy for me to say.
But Love, is the Reason for Life.
It is the Main purpose for our entire Being.
What people go through with their quest for love, it's all about finding that love of your life.
It will happen, I promise you.
Everyone has a soulmate.
It's Destiny.
(Please forgive the thoughts of a hopeless romantic. It's my kryptonite.)馃様馃挄馃)
Kelly.
Poeticdiva31-35, F
@Montanaman I don't want it to find me. I can live without it. It's not a necessity in my life. I'm perfectly fine without it. But it good to see someone who has so much faith in this world.
MontanamanM
@Poeticdiva 馃
KayraJordynF
@Poeticdiva Even apart from romantic love, I pray someone shows you the real deal, because I believe you, too are capable of love. You have the ability to share it, with the right person/people. Even if it's brotherly love, a motherly, or grandfather figure, a sister, a friend, a mentor; a child... it's possible. I hope you experience something real that gives you that "Aha! moment" as Oprah used to call it. A moment where you see something for the first time. Something new, real, plain and clearly, right in front of you. Blessings.
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
Love is a verb, not a noun. It means commitment, loyalty, effort, kindness, respect, and trust.
KayraJordynF
@DearAmbellina2113

Love, love is a verb
Love is a doing word
Fearless on my breath
Gentle impulsion
Shakes me, makes me lighter
Fearless on my breath

"Love is a doing word" has kept with me for some years. Actions speak louder than words, as these words proclaim.
SW-User
I鈥檝e actualky starting to come to terms with this. The saddest part is I鈥檓 already starting to accep it.
SW-User
You're smart. What people call love is selfish self centered. What we are getting out of it and as long as our wants are being met, we good. When they ain't, we toss it aside like a rotten potato.
FernieF
@SW-User everybody?
SW-User
@Fernie I shoulda said some.
FernieF
@SW-User or "too many"...that's my fave :>
midnightoker61-69, M
Telling somebody you love them is like telling them your dream from last night.....
You can explain all you want.... They'll never understand..
SStarfish
I believe in it cause I'm full of it..

lol

 
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