I'd Rather Have the Truth, No Matter How Hard

You know when you ask some people a question, you know before they even open their mouths that they're going to twist their answer ba<x>sed on something they're trying to accomplish? Not just selfish jerks - but people who are super diplomatic, or people who constantly tell "polite" lies. They don't even think about it - it's just their automatic way of relating to the world. But then with other people, they show me again and again that their natural instinct is to just tell the truth.


I find myself drawn to people who's instinct is to just tell me the truth. I don't like people who use "being honest" as an excuse to be a jerk or to not think about other people's feelings - truth and kindness can almost always be accomplished in tandem, unless you're a jerk - in which case putting your real self out there will rightly push people away from you.


That's the thing - if you're an awesome person, being authentic will draw people to you. But if you're not so awesome, then being authentic is going to push people away. But at the same time, if you're willing to look honestly at yourself, that kind of thing will key you in to where you could use some self-improvement.


So yeah - I like people who are real with me. As long as they're cool.