I Am Married But Lonely

I understand how you feel. I haven't had any intimacy for months and even then I was disappointed

This is tragic. I can only tell you that I left a sexless marriage of 3 decades about 4 years and a bit ago. I am so happy now. Even on the absolute worse day, I am free and have so many choices. Only those in sexless marriages will understand what you do and how you live. If only things changed is likely what you are thinking. And there comes a point when you know they never will. And at that point you have to decide if you will settle and exist like this til the day you shall die or she does OR you will decide you need to live and you make a severe decision and you start a divorce. I cannot make your decision for you. But no one who has left a sexless marriage has ever said or posted that they regretted their choice. I know many who have left and are so happy. It is not all rainbows and unicorns, but boy oh boy life singssssssssssssssssss. I wish you life.

Just grab her with a hug!🤗💓

The constant of life is change.
Your wife and you see life very different. Her body has aged and her sex drive also goes down with age. Then how do you cope with these changes?
If you make her wrong and you right, it will cause more drift. Take her out on a date, go dancing, or some activity that you both did together. Leave her love poems on her pillow/car/fridge. If you do the same over and over then you will get the same results. In long terms it is very easy for the union to become nasty and distant.
Know that the only one that you can work on is you. Your self-love and self-worth are of your own doing, how you see you in life will determine your happy state, not her.
She can’t have you be happy, that is your job for you.

It's difficult and sad when your spouse doesn't love you the way you need them to, the way they once did. You question whether it was real to begin with and what went wrong. There's lots of good advise out there look for it. It sounds like you've been trying. Sometimes there's no answer it's them not being happy with themselves. Sometimes it's physical or chemical. Whatever the reason don't give up. Marriage is important.

I am sorry for all those things which I've read about your marriage here.

I just can speak from my own experience: After 2 years I have left my marriage. And although my marriage was very different from yours I just can say this:

"It's better to make a painful break than draw out the agony."

You don't live forever. So just think about those words and make your decision.

It's very difficult. I know-----I'm in the same situation.

There is a tiny piece, hiding, deeply, in our souls, that is the key to all of who we are, to what we need, to what we are looking for. That piece holds all the info of our personal WHY's. It is a piece of holographic image, yet holding every piece of you. Yeah, it's tiny but it's huge. It is you. Find it. See it. Mean it. Apply it. Do something about it. Work on it. Then your personal satisfaction should feel right to you. And to those who care about you as well. Don't ever give upon yourself. You have no right.

I am sorry you're in this awful situation.. Hugs to you 🤗

I wish I had answers...for you as well as myself

That's a sad story, has anything improved?

Are you talking to her about it? About anything?

Sorry to hear that. Alas all too common. I hope things work out one way or another.

Never too late.. For anything

Do you feel it's too late to start the 'if only's' ? It's never too late.

Thats a shame.