I Am Married But Lonely

I am continuing to be astonished with the magnitude of my loneliness with my wife sitting just three feet away. How did it get to this and why can't we fix it?
We no longer talk or touch.
And I keep thinking "If only...".

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mumbling · 26-30, F

Are you talking to her about it? About anything?

OzDiver · 61-69, M

@mumbling: Sadly, she steadfastly refuses to discuss any aspect of this problem. Our conversations are limited to mundane daily topics.

mumbling · 26-30, F

@OzDiver: maybe don't discuss, but try to change it by little things

OzDiver · 61-69, M

@mumbling: Great advice, which, sadly, I have tried. I've given her space, given her time, supported her studies, tried to talk, made sure that I didn't talk. I've suggested counselling and accepted her decision to refuse it. I've been to counselling alone for over six months to try to find some strategies to change things. No success unfortunately.

mumbling · 26-30, F

@OzDiver: :/ sorry to hear that

aradia11 · 61-69, F

@OzDiver: I understand...Even though my out there husband will hold my hand whrn walking in public etc... we will sit through breakfast at Dennys and have NO conversation. He is in pain a lot...due to arthritis..
He never wants to go anywhere... the most we do is go to a movie n lunch at the mall...I see people out having fun travel taking day trips It makes me sad n lonesome