I Am Married But Lonely

I am continuing to be astonished with the magnitude of my loneliness with my wife sitting just three feet away. How did it get to this and why can't we fix it?
We no longer talk or touch.
And I keep thinking "If only...".

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PoetryNEmotion · F

This is tragic. I can only tell you that I left a sexless marriage of 3 decades about 4 years and a bit ago. I am so happy now. Even on the absolute worse day, I am free and have so many choices. Only those in sexless marriages will understand what you do and how you live. If only things changed is likely what you are thinking. And there comes a point when you know they never will. And at that point you have to decide if you will settle and exist like this til the day you shall die or she does OR you will decide you need to live and you make a severe decision and you start a divorce. I cannot make your decision for you. But no one who has left a sexless marriage has ever said or posted that they regretted their choice. I know many who have left and are so happy. It is not all rainbows and unicorns, but boy oh boy life singssssssssssssssssss. I wish you life.

OzDiver · 61-69, M

@PoetryNEmotion: Thank you for your kindness. I have some difficult decisions ahead. But nothing positive will happen unless I make those decisions.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@OzDiver: You are most welcome. Severe decisions. And you are correct. I hope you love yourself enough to make them. Nothing wrong with loving yourself, OzDiver. If you don't, no one will. Each of us deserves such a fine love. PM if you need to. Or leave me words. Atta, man!

OzDiver · 61-69, M

@PoetryNEmotion: Thank you so much. I will let you know what happens. ❤