I Got Out of a Relationship With a Narcissist

[i]Narcissists Are Unwillingly And Are
Unable To Resolve Conflicts Or Participate
In Discussions In A Healthy mature Matter.
It’s All About Power / Winning At The Expense
Of other Ppl Well Being.[/i]


[i]They always trick you into thinking everything’s your fault[/i]

[i]Arguments from nowhere erupts and by the time you know it , there are like 5 separate issues from separate events , different months , different years , different people thrown in , that you are confused how far you have deviated from the original topic[/i]

[i]When my famiiar Narcsadist said to me "you are threatned by my presence" i laughed. He then said "are u on drugs" 😂 ive learned its tempting to think u are making headway, wrong! Never have a heart to heart, share personal details, plans, protect yourself, keep convo light. They are gathering ammunition to use against u. They will friendly bomb you with, heres a coffee, or id like u to have this. Don't assume you've cracked the cryptic code to resolution. It's a false sense of security. Make no mistake, when u saw through the mask, youve become a threat. Also note, they are very litigious. Don't believe any insults or praise, they project 24/7 it's disingenuous Just remember healthy conversations you've had with other healthy level headed well rounded people and your sanity will be restored. DISTANCE Stay joyous, and laugh with those u cherish. ✌ 😎
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Here is a list of what Narcissists usually do to their targets : - Insults their target very often. Then lie when confronted about it, or say it was a joke. - When confronted with their behavior, they pretend to be innocent and play the victim. -

Everything is always your fault, even when it's obviously not. - They always have a justification for every bad thing they do. They think they're always right. - Very controlling, they tell you how to live, but they can live anyway they want. Very hypocritical. - They accuse you of what they're doing to you (RED FLAG!), it's called Projection. - Portraying themselves as angels outside, when they are actually demons with their family and especially their target. -

They want you to fail, while pretending to want you to succeed (they're very convincing). - They never say they are sorry for hurting you (RED FLAG!). - Poison your favorite activities, they don't want you to be happy or to get pleasure. They also poison other useful activities like important skills which will help you in the future.

They DO NOT want you to have skills, they want you to be as weak as possible. They don't teach you anything. - Subtly lead a smear campaign against their target, so they isolate it and make sure they don't get help. - When you want to leave the relationship with a narcissist, they beg you to stay with them and cry crocodile tears. They are the best actors. -

Sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. You never know where you stand with them. - They pretend to be "victims", and they blame the target for their own behavior. - They are incredibly arrogant and sadistic. They see the target as weak, and deserving to suffer. - They think they are models to be followed. -

They are spiritually dead although they might loudly profess some kind of Spiritual Belief.

Blaming has been used time and time again. It has been used to control such as, "if you were a better wife then..., if you gave me more attention then ..., if you were nicer to me..., if you did more things for me..., if you had a better sense of humor..., if you supported me more..., then I wouldn't yell at you as much, I may not be tempted to cheat, I wouldn't fight with you...". Basically this is used to threaten, with a punishment, to perform to his standards. This conditions the victim.

[i]This was so true and so helpful, thank you! So strange how they can be so "supportive" in the beginning..fast forward 4 yrs, nothing you say or do matters any longer. smh[/i]

[i]They are meat puppets...lost souls..with gaping holes where their souls belong that's filled with every abomination that exist in our world...sorry but there's nothing any human can do to help them.[/i]

[i]Inspirational video.We can all try to communicate with a narcissist, but basically, in most circumstances we are wasting our time. When you first meet a narcissist they can be the most charming and friendly person that you could imagine.Why?Because they want to control you.Todays message is, avoid a narcissist as much as possible, they have the ability to destroy you. You need to look after yourself first.[/i]

[b][quote][i]KNOWLEDGE IS POWER[c=#002673][/c][/i][/quote][/b]

[i]Narcissists are known for using word salad when it comes to arguments. When they know they are on losing the end of an argument, they will use unrelated words and concepts, contradictions and combinations of ideas which are opposed to one another all in order to confuse you.

They know you are a logical person and so they will not even try to compete with you, so they want to make it difficult for you to follow and try to make you feel dumbfounded for not getting it.[/i]

[i]Their souls are dead. Jesus called them children of Satan. It's a choice. People are either Satan's children with dead souls, seeking to destroy others, or they are God' children who are connected to life and seek to uplift others. There is no middle ground.[/i]

[i][Narcissists know you better then you know yourself and the reason they can control and manipulate you./i]

[b][i]The ignoring as well... at first I had no idea what on earth could be going on. We would be on holiday and he would be up on the terrace, looking down into one side of the garden. I would go up and stand next to him and soooooooooo many times he would literally walk to the other side .. literally physically negating me. He would also say nothing. So bizarre. But part of the abuse tactic![/i][/b]

Good for you! Best move I ever made.

The number one tool the Narc uses is your own Fear. The rest is methods they use to play on your fears. Remove the fear and theres nothing to feed on. No fuel.[b][i][/i][/b]

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