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Stigma. Men have been telling themselves to be a man since ancient times and many of them just can't open up to other men out of being laughed at, not taken seriously or judged. Also alot of men just don't know how to handle when someone opens up to them because they never got the experience with others or themselves.
It really sucks, I personally see a man who can be open about his emotions way more attractive, men who don't try to be men and just be a person whoever they truly are... Same goes for anyone I guess
It really sucks, I personally see a man who can be open about his emotions way more attractive, men who don't try to be men and just be a person whoever they truly are... Same goes for anyone I guess
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Casheyane · F
@MushroomFaerie Yeah :) There needs to be trust. I listen to them of course. But idk, maybe it's the girl in me. I kinda a want a hero type to date.
@Casheyane they can still be like that and open at the same time. I find the alpha males are more secure in opening up
Casheyane · F
@MushroomFaerie Yeah? Then I wanna meet an alpha male :)
They don’t want to feel or appear weak to other guys.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
It's a male issue. Just like the ages old question "why don't guys ask for directions" when going somewhere.
Admittedly, over the years it has gotten better. Yet just last night a girl ask me for help in push starting their car. I don't believe the guy really liked her asking! Lol
Admittedly, over the years it has gotten better. Yet just last night a girl ask me for help in push starting their car. I don't believe the guy really liked her asking! Lol
SW-User
Guys tend to want to fix things for themselves and if you give them enough time and space and encouragement they will usually be able to do that ,but there are sometimes they will reach out and it is usually either to another guy they trust and have known for a very long time or it is someone they are interested in romantically.
Usually, they are not going to spill their guts to their women friends, it's just the way many are .
I know that's not a popular thing to say, but it's what I found to be true and so instead of trying to talk them into something,I just let them be what they are.
Usually, they are not going to spill their guts to their women friends, it's just the way many are .
I know that's not a popular thing to say, but it's what I found to be true and so instead of trying to talk them into something,I just let them be what they are.
Casheyane · F
@SW-User I don't know what it is about me. But people of all sorts like to open up to me. Sometimes it's weird but I started to think it's a gift I can easily earn their trust without even trying.
Sometimes though, I want to be with someone as strong as me, if not stronger. Sometimes, you just want someone who doesn't appear weak to you.
Sometimes though, I want to be with someone as strong as me, if not stronger. Sometimes, you just want someone who doesn't appear weak to you.
SW-User
Maybe they're afraid of other men seeing them as weak. A lot of the time, it's guys judging other guys for having feelings, lol
Casheyane · F
@SW-User Maybe. For us girls it's the opposite though. We like to talk A LOT haha.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
it’s a plot to get laid then they bust loose like OJ
Casheyane · F
@NiftyWhite Nah, sorry I don't get the reference.
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
geez. didn’t think i’d live long enough to have to explain that to anyone. @Casheyane
Casheyane · F
@NiftyWhite haha sorry
JammieDodgerHeart · 26-30, F
Vulnerability isn't seen as masculine in a way, even though it's not true, it's just that idea has been prevalent through culture
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
I'd much rather consult with a lady myself.
oaoaoa · 26-30, T
for me its like that totally. I open up and tell girls things but its kind of I think because I feel more like a girl. But when it comes to like, HAVING sex... I am way more shy around girls but Im not really shy at all with a guy so idk why. everybody is different
Men don't feel the need to put up a facade of invulnerability around girls as much as they generally do around other guys.
Oblivion · 22-25, M
I don't like opening up to women either. In my experience, women are even more judgmental and are likely to label you gay
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
I have found many women are easier to talk to because they are less judgemental and more accepting than most guys.
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
It's not easy to talk to guys with openness. Can't say what's the reason.
dinonuggies · 100+, M
gender roles?
Casheyane · F
@dinonuggies Elaborate please.
SW-User
Machismo
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, women tend to be nurturing, good listeners, great at sizing up situations, etc. They have a special energy that makes me feel comfortable around them. Got plenty of guy friends too, but women are excellent allies.
DDonde · 31-35, M
Competition and being perceived as weak.
DDonde · 31-35, M
@Casheyane It's difficult for me to put a finger exactly on why. Other than I suppose the people you like and are attracted to generally don't seem as threatening to you.
All in all, it boils down to how it feels...
My gut tells me that this is dangerous and self-exposing, rather than potentially comforting. Unfortunately that's as far as I am able to explain it.
All in all, it boils down to how it feels...
My gut tells me that this is dangerous and self-exposing, rather than potentially comforting. Unfortunately that's as far as I am able to explain it.
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Because males are assholes
Casheyane · F
@MartinTheFirst Are you one of them?
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
Imagine, you're walking with your friend and you decide to say what's bothering you. You open up to them casually, but the moment they hear your issue they get this expression on their face that means "why are you telling me this?". After you've seen their expression you understand that you need to end the conversation as quick as possible.
This happens between males, because they're assholes and really don't want to hear another guys problems.
Not everyone of course, but most.
This happens between males, because they're assholes and really don't want to hear another guys problems.
Not everyone of course, but most.
Casheyane · F
@MartinTheFirst Ahh. I'm sorry to hear that. It makes sense they they seek female company if you put it like that.