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My coworker likes to buy me breakfast and/or lunch every day at work. Is it ok for me to reciprocate sometimes?

My friend told me that I shouldn't. 'If the guy wants to pay, let him pay!'
iamnikki · 31-35, F
I don't think you should continue accepting. Especially since i read in comments that he's married...
@iamnikki You are saying I should decline simply for that reason alone?
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@DreamyCrush seems like it would lead to problems in the future if you don't. Such as, his wife finding out about her husband buying a female coworker food daily. Such as him coming on to you...unless you're okay with that, I'd stop accepting..😕
joe438 · 61-69, M
Of course it is. You're friends and coworkers? It saves a lot of effort compared to calculating and splitting checks all the time. From the other comments I see that he's married so it's clear that the intent is just to be friendly. By all means, pick up some checks.
4meAndyou · F
You definitely need to insist on paying for your own breakfast and/or lunch. Married guys do not foot the bill all year long (which is depriving his wife and family of something), unless he has some serious fantasies and expectations about you and from you.
SW-User
If you're married... offer to pay once in a while.

if you're single... it's up to you.
@SW-User I'm sure she knows what kind of man she married.
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SW-User
You don’t have to, even if it was a woman, nobody forced them to do that. Unless you ask them, that’s different .
Every once in a blue moon, sure...why not reciprocate. Cheer them up a bit too.
Peaceful · F
I personally would. But that is up to you.
@Peaceful I have been. It surprises him sometimes. He's such a gentleman though. One time he nearly elbowed me in the ribs when I tried to pay.
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SW-User
I think you should once in a while.
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@Greybare Agreed.
plinkplonk · F
Yes. Reciprocate. Soon.

It's not a date :)
What is his motive ? There’s always the risk that there might be an expectation of something down the line. There’s generally no “free” lunch (or breakfast). If he’s only doing it as a friend, and you also consider him a friend, yes you might reciprocate. People like your other friend often end up “surprised” when misunderstandings result.
@DreamyCrush Then it’s fine, and reciprocating makes sense. The latter is not necessarily so, btw. My best guy friend is a former colleague. He’s been like a brother to me and when he introduced me to his wife and baby daughter 18 years ago I became close to the family. I’m godmother to their other children.
@bijouxbroussard It's wonderful that you're dealing with mature, secure aduts. My experience has been a little different -- my childhood friend's wife is insecure about him having female friends, and my other guy friend (who I've known 18 years) has declined having me meet his wife. 😏
@DreamyCrush I feel very lucky to have them in my life. They’ve been together 25 years and even before she came to know and trust me she [b]knew[/b] she could trust him. He’s a really good guy.

 
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