My coworker likes to buy me breakfast and/or lunch every day at work. Is it ok for me to reciprocate sometimes?
My friend told me that I shouldn't. 'If the guy wants to pay, let him pay!'
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bijouxbroussard · F
What is his motive ? There’s always the risk that there might be an expectation of something down the line. There’s generally no “free” lunch (or breakfast). If he’s only doing it as a friend, and you also consider him a friend, yes you might reciprocate. People like your other friend often end up “surprised” when misunderstandings result.
DreamyCrush · F
@bijouxbroussard He is a colleague and friend, nothing more. I realize you can't really be friends with a married man [unless you grew up together], but that's not the situation.
bijouxbroussard · F
@DreamyCrush Then it’s fine, and reciprocating makes sense. The latter is not necessarily so, btw. My best guy friend is a former colleague. He’s been like a brother to me and when he introduced me to his wife and baby daughter 18 years ago I became close to the family. I’m godmother to their other children.
DreamyCrush · F
@bijouxbroussard It's wonderful that you're dealing with mature, secure aduts. My experience has been a little different -- my childhood friend's wife is insecure about him having female friends, and my other guy friend (who I've known 18 years) has declined having me meet his wife. 😏
bijouxbroussard · F
@DreamyCrush I feel very lucky to have them in my life. They’ve been together 25 years and even before she came to know and trust me she [b]knew[/b] she could trust him. He’s a really good guy.