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Was she rude?

So, I generally hang out with my friends on Friday nights because that is really the only day we are all available. This past Friday, however, I didn't hear a peep out of my friend after I had left her house that morning,(we did homework together) so I figured she just wanted to spend some time with her boyfriend, and I let them be. The day before, though, she was talking to me about how she was excited for a new movie coming out, and I said I couldn't wait to see it. She said, and I quote :"I think we're going to go on Tuesday, since that's the discount day." So, I naturally assumed that meant that I was invited to go with them, especially since this wasn't the first time we had all expressed interest in this particular film. Then, I received a message from her this afternoon, telling me to "Go see that movie! It's SOOO good." I asked her "I thought we were going to see it on Tuesday?" to which she said "My parents took me and my boyfriend to see it yesterday." Am I wrong for being hurt that she spend her Friday night at the movie that I presumed we were all going to see together next week? This also isn't the first time something like this has happened. It just hurts me because I have no one else to go with, and she knows that there is no way I would want to go see the movie alone, and that I'll probably not get a chance to see it anytime soon.
SW-User
I think there's a problem with communication there...
Seems she wanted to be with her boyfriend... alone. 馃槄
SW-User
@marilynmichelle I understand. Sadly some people... just feel like being more with their boyfriends and neglect their friends badly, if this is something that happens regularly, talk to her, and the best thing you can do, is seeing new/ other friends.
@SW-User I mean, she doesn't neglect me that much, honestly. We have a lot of the same classes and her and I see each other all day long. I just miss hanging out with both of them
SW-User
@marilynmichelle then simply talk to her :D
LyricalOneF
Gotta stop assuming things and get specific with your plans. Obviously you weren't on the same page.
LyricalOneF
@marilynmichelle At least you'll know you did everything you could. Then if you keep coming up on the short end of the stick, you might want to rethink the friendship.
@LyricalOne That's true. It's just hard because I don't really have any other close friends.
LyricalOneF
@marilynmichelle Talk to her about the movie situation. See how she reacts. That might help you determine whether she is in fact a close friend. You've already said this isn't the first time something similar happened.

And don't worry, if you like and respect yourself, there will be other friends.
katielassF
I think you need to understand that sometimes a couple just wants to be alone. It's nothing personal and it appears she did not see it the same as you did but obviously was not intending to hurt you. Let it go and if you want to see it, see it. No crime in going alone.
@katielass I completely understand that. It just hurts that they haven't seemed to want to spend time with me lately. It's usually we go to dinner, and then they leave and don't want to do anything after, whereas we used to spend hours at each other's houses playing games and having a good time.
MartinTheFirst22-25, M
you were not wrong but perhaps she were not in the wrong for watching it on herself either? you have to ask her.
@MartinTheFirst Perhaps not. And not that she needs my permission by any means to see a movie with her boyfriend, but she knew I was excited about it and went anyway. It just hurts..

 
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