I hate this situation

I’m angry at my coworker but I know it was a lot of my fault. I’m angry at myself. And I drink to cope. I don’t feel the same about my ex now and it’s my fault. We were getting married. I mean it’s ruined and I can’t fight because I lost my own damn feelings in sleeping with someone else. I’m so confused how I could do that over a fling. And struggle to stop feeling attracted to someone I want to punch the wall when I see. It’s like goddamn just disappear. I’m sorry but it reminds me how weak I am. I wouldn’t have done it but I was wasted. I really was. And now I can’t get over it somehow

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

I mean it makes sense that you can't get over it, you cheated on your future wife, ruined that, and can't find a way to make it better. All men are weak in some way to other women's advances, but you have to recognize your weakness and not put yourself in a situation where those things can happen. Getting married to someone carries a lot of responsibility, and that is one of those responsibilities. You can't control yourself when you drink? Then don't drink with women.

Work on yourself to gain control over yourself, work out a plan, and maybe she'll take you back once you've become a better man, or you could possibly find someone new.

Morrowind · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst I don’t feel the same and I don’t know how to get it back. And I can’t move on either. This happened in January and I feel just as broke

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@Morrowind That's not a very long time at all. You'll go through grief for a long while over what you've lost, I just hope you make something useful out of the experience instead of going the other direction.