I had a job interview today and it got me thinking. Have you ever declined a job offer after the interview or declined to attend a secondary interview

I interviewed at a place earlier in the week and it got me thinking about my experience and how many others have been in my shoes. I walk in roughly 10 minutes to spare and head up to the front to let the staff know who I was and what I was here for. A man comes out questioning me asking me if I was at the correct location. I pulled out my phone looked at my email and read back the address asking if that address was this one. At this point I'm questioning myself thinking did I make a mistake? The man seems frustrated and stated I didn't know I had an interview today and told me to go sit over in a designated spot. I went and waited and the man comes over and begins asking me the usual interview questions. Why here? What do you bring to the table? What is your availability? While I'm talking I notice him pressing his pen down pretty hard onto the clipboard taking notes as if I just ruined his day. Maybe I over analyzed and it's all in my head but he just seemed pretty agitated and rather impersonal. I tried to make small talk and connect but they weren't having any of it, no smile, no eye contact. I was told they needed to talk it over with their boss and I would hear back if they decided to proceed to the secondary interview.

Today I get a email saying congratulations I've been moved forward to the second interview and all I needed to do was select a date and time. I'm thinking of turning it down because my gut is telling me to. Yes, I need a source of income but I have a voice in the back of my head telling me I'm not going to be a great fit. The voice is saying don't do it keep searching.

I was curious if anyone else got off vibes after leaving an interview or even declined a secondary interview due to a similar feeling or situation.

On a side note the job interview today went better and felt much better. I just have to wait and see what the final decision will be.

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pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M

I one time applied for a job. They were visibly impressed with my CV. I passed the training and trial shift. This was now over a month since they closed the job position. Told me they now just needed to create my work schedule. I then mentioned I have a slight disability. It didnt effect the work, I just thought I should mention it. The supervisor looked at me with disgust and then a few days later said he had found someone else.

NovaNine · 56-60, M

@pianoplayingsteve You know I bet you could nail them on ableism for that. I'm sorry that happened to you but it's their loss completely. Now you got me wondering even more as another person with a slight disability mine is visible unfortunately how many people have honed in on it and passed on me for that alone.

pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M

@NovaNine I was worried they could afford good lawyers and put me in the wrong even though I wasnt. And then I'd have to pay their court fees. And how would i prove it.

And yeah they may have passed you up based on it. Small disabilities are the one immutable characteristic where you don't get some social justice movement behind you claiming anything against you must be an ism. You are on your own, and this form of ism is the only real one to exist.

NovaNine · 56-60, M

@pianoplayingsteve Unfortunately that is an issue with companies with deep pockets affording these high level lawyers to run over the little guy with. I wish it wasn't that way truly. I'd be in the same situation as you they'd just say your honor this man is a junkie just look at him. The court and jurors would gasp and I'd be vilified and steamrolled. I hate this planet sometimes.