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Black Friday

First I want to say, I worked really hard to get this job. At first I loved it all the people were nice and my boss was amazing! I usually don't become friends with co workers, but I felt comfortable enough I put my wall down and allowed me and my boss to become close. She is about 20 years older than me and naturally became a mother figure to me. I even called her mom and she would refer to me as her daughter and for months I was happy.

Then black Friday came and she invited me to go shopping. I agreed to meet up with her and things were going smoothed as usually until we ran into an ex girlfriend of mine. Once she became aware of me being bisexual things between us changed. She started inviting me to church with her. Making comments about certain lifestyles lead to the road of hell. I ignored the comments for the most part, and started to distance myself from her. I stopped answering her personal calls and would just text back with an excuse of why I couldn't answer the phone. Instead of eating lunch together in her office I would eat lunch in the cafeteria with my other coworkers.

She felt the distance and one day she sent me a text inviting me to her house for dinner. I foolishly accepted. It was me, her and 3 other ladies. She introduced me to them as her daughter and told them how proud of me she was, and how great I was doing at work. It started to feel like before. Then after dinner things took a turn for the weird. We started holding hands in a circle and they began praying to God to "free me of this wickedness." They took turns giving me testimony about the greatness of God and all I had to do is ask for his help. This went on for about 30 minutes. I finally had enough and got up and left. I cut off all ties, stopped responding to phone calls and text messages. Outside of work emails I ignored all communication. To get me back she has given me a "promotion" I work in a different building, different hours doing something I hate. This whole thing has brought on depression and anxiety for me. I know I need to find another job but right now my mental is not into it.
Matt85 · 36-40, M
She may have been a bit forceful but she was just trying to save your soul.
black4white · 56-60, M
That totally sucks for you and I’m sorry to hear. Have you consider reporting her to HR for harassment and have a track record of what’s going on. Otherwise just look for another job while you got that one and head out when the timing is right good luck I get you.
@black4white There is no legal case here: everything she did was voluntary, mostly out of work, with no coercion. I think this would go nowhere legally…
black4white · 56-60, M
@Thorstormbringer No in a legal sense but in a way to track the behavior. :-)
So, then, the point bring ?

@black4white
manly · 46-50, M
That was back in December, yes? What happened since then? Hope it all worked out for you. 👏
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@manly I haven't started yet. I'm still doing the training.
manly · 46-50, M
@Bigcitygirl Ahh...and how goes that training? Are you looking fwd to finishing it and starting a new chapter in your life, so to speak?
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@manly it's 6 weeks and I'm only in week one.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
You really need to pull yourself together and send out resumes will working. Hopefully find something and get out of there.
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@PTCdresser57 I know, but I'm struggling with my mental health right now.
Snowleopard2000 · 51-55, M
Oh what a distressing story, some people can be so closed minded, righteous and intolerance. I hope you find some happiness and closure from this.
Tukudo · 41-45, M
When you feel uncomfortable, then move on ... you will have lovable job in some other places.
Vetman · 46-50, M
You could always sue for retaliation
I'm very glad that you got out of that environment.
Human1000 · M
Good God, where the hell do you live? Sounds like a horror movie.
Human1000 · M
@Bigcitygirl Ugh, you gotta move away from those lunatics.
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@Human1000 Trust me I'm trying.
Human1000 · M
@Bigcitygirl I’ve only lived in “blue” cities. You’ll be accepted!
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M
And now after 7 months on?
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@HotPizza71 What?
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M
@Bigcitygirl are you still at this job you spoke about?
Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
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Bigcitygirl · 22-25, F
@SW-User I have, but either one of two outcomes will happen. I would go back to working under her or I will end up working in another department. I just need to get away and find something else.
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Turtlepower · 36-40, M
@Bigcitygirl You should still report her on your way out because it may help someone in the future avoid what you're going through now.

 
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