Let’s chat about the work wife and work hubby? Y’all cool with your significant other having one?
36-40, M
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Saucylover · 26-30, F
Honestly, I am. I used to tell my ex about my work bae all the time lol. He would tell me about his as well. It was platonic. Yeah, there was a little light flirting here and there. But it never went any further than that. We both knew where home was. I think having a work bae allows you to enjoy the job a bit more in my opinion. I know a lot may not agree with this, but I think it's healthy.
While I do prefer monogamy, I actually don't mind my partner flirting or accepting flirty conversations every now and then. We used to go to the club and pretend we didn't know each other lol. We would chat with people, flirt, and just have fun. Then we would find our way to each other at the bar and act like strangers. It was a way to keep our relationship light, fun, and fresh.
While I do prefer monogamy, I actually don't mind my partner flirting or accepting flirty conversations every now and then. We used to go to the club and pretend we didn't know each other lol. We would chat with people, flirt, and just have fun. Then we would find our way to each other at the bar and act like strangers. It was a way to keep our relationship light, fun, and fresh.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@Saucylover that’s pretty dope… i tried that in my marriage, the lounge scene… I get possessive in monogamous relationships
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@Heavenlywarrior That's interesting. Excuse me if this comes off as rude. I am genuinely asking. So you're able to avoid being possessive in non-monogamous relationships (I want to avoid using polyamorous, many people use it wrong), but you're possessive in monogamous relationships? I just want to know how you are able to avoid being possessive over your partner when you're in an open-relationship. I've never been in an open-relationship. But I find the concept intriguing. Idk if I could do it though.
I am a little possessive by nature lmao. I don't really mind him appreciating beauty in women or men, tbh. I can date bisexual men as well. I am pretty open-minded. But one thing I cannot do is seriously date someone who is simultaneously sleeping or entertaining other women. Sorry, this is so long. What I really want to know is how you're able to differentiate your feelings between the two relationship types. And would be open to a monogamous relationship, or is that chapter closed in your life?
I am a little possessive by nature lmao. I don't really mind him appreciating beauty in women or men, tbh. I can date bisexual men as well. I am pretty open-minded. But one thing I cannot do is seriously date someone who is simultaneously sleeping or entertaining other women. Sorry, this is so long. What I really want to know is how you're able to differentiate your feelings between the two relationship types. And would be open to a monogamous relationship, or is that chapter closed in your life?
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@Saucylover u good, that chapter is closed because it doesn’t feel natural to me.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@Saucylover in a monogamous relationship I feel me the woman I made a commitment with shouldn’t have any intimate sexual interactions with anyone else but each other.
That’s my view on monogamous relationships.
That’s my view on monogamous relationships.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@Heavenlywarrior That is completely understandable. It doesn't feel natural to a lot of people, and I get it. I like a bit of fluidity in my relationship lol. Maybe I should head to the other side. I might like something open. I've told my partner (current/previous) that I am open to sleeping with someone else in the future if that's something we both want to do.
I personally don't look at sleeping with others while in a committed relationship as a deal breaker. It's the dishonesty that I don't like. I can appreciate a man that is upfront about his need to satisfy himself with other women.
I personally don't look at sleeping with others while in a committed relationship as a deal breaker. It's the dishonesty that I don't like. I can appreciate a man that is upfront about his need to satisfy himself with other women.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@Saucylover follow your heart… only you know what feels best for you.☺️ that’s how I feel about it