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How to tell potentially new employer I’m 7 months pregnant?

Hey guys.. I was recently offered a job working in the same industry. I’m an expert in this role and could genuinely help the company. The whole role is remote, contract.. and I wasn’t up front about being pregnant during the first interview because I wasn’t even sure the job would be a fit and also legally I’m supposedly not obligated to. Well they’ve just offered me the job almost on the spot after interview #1 and they want me to fly up and meet their team but the truth is I’m 7 months pregnant. I’m planning to take only a 2 week maternity leave and I do have subcontractors who can help fulfill some of the work while I’m out.. but something tells me as soon as I disclose this that the employer will get so freaked out. How do I go about this? They also want to do a virtual meeting with the whole team and I’m like should I pull the person who offered me the job aside and tell them before that meeting? Or go through with the meeting? And tell him after? Help !
LucyFuhr · 51-55, F Best Comment
The sooner you tell them the better.
Although they can't discriminate against you for being pregnant, they'll find another reason to terminate you if they feel you're not trustworthy.
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
Thank you!! <3[@8345,LucyFuhr]
LucyFuhr · 51-55, F
[@542440,Brassm0nk3y] I went through a similar situation with one of my former employees and although I totally get why you and she would choose not to disclose; she put me in a difficult position.

I hope it all works out for you 🤞
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
[@8345,LucyFuhr] that makes complete sense. I can totally understand how it would be an inconvenience to an employer. I plan to disclose it. If all else fails maybe they’ll have an open mind to working together after my maternity leave.

swirlie · 31-35, F
The bottom line is, you intentionally deceived your employer who offered you a new position in good faith. You did not respond in good faith because you being pregnant was not a part of your employer's equation for offering you the job in the first place.

If you get terminated, it won't be because you never revealed the fact that you were 7 months pregnant, it will be because you deceived your employer as to your true status, which is actually called 'fraudulent misrepresentation'.

Why would you even attend a job interview for an upcoming position when you would be giving birth in 2 months? Were you planning on continuing working 9 to 5, 40 hours a week after your delivery date in hopes that someone else would raise your child?

If anything, you should have asked your employer for a 12 month leave of absence during the job interview, not pretend that you were capable of both working full time while tending to a new-born!

You're obviously not thinking too clearly, so maybe you should change your mind and decline the new job offering before someone else makes that decision for you. Just sayin'...[/c]
swirlie · 31-35, F
Borderline harassment? YOU were asking for advice in how to get yourself out of a jam that most honest people wouldn't ever find themselves in!

I have repeatedly advised you of how your story looks on the surface. How do you think your contract boss will respond to your story when you finally come clean with him about your pregnancy? Are you going to accuse him too of harassing you, when he calls you out on committing fraudulent intent in a contract issue where you never gave full disclosure of your actual status while not disclosing your inability to fulfill your contract obligations in the real world?[/c]
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
[@332402,swirlie] again. This isn’t fraudulent. Fraudulent would be not disclosing this at all.. you are making assumptions I couldn’t fulfill obligations. I have subcontractors I work with and other long term jobs, 3 actually who are continuing as normal with the knowledge that I pregnant and have help to fill in the gap while I’m gone for this short period of time. Again, could you please leave the thread? You’re just hurling negative and accusatory, untrue stuff. Yes it’s harassment at this point because I’ve asked several times for you to stop
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
[@332402,swirlie] this is supposed to be a safe place to share opinions and ask questions without being harassed and ridiculed. You’ve shared your opinion. We all know how you feel. Why do you continue to berate and hammer in the negativity? Obviously we disagree. This is my thread and safe space and there is zero purpose for you to continue to act this way towards me or accuse my story of being untrue or idiotic.. you’ve already done that. Now move on.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
After doing this

You'd have thought they would have figured it out
sassypants · 31-35, F
You have to tell them immediately. If you choose not to tell them and then they found out after it makes you seem dishonest and it will affect you moving forward. I also would not fly no matter what the doctor said. Its still a risk.
I think you should tell them it’s better to be upfront and honest.
beefandbroccoli · 26-30, M
Tell them ASAP . You should have already told them
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
During the interview process? I’m not legally obligated to do that plus I didn’t even know if the job would be a fit[@567763,blackcar]
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Tell them immediately. If they really want you they won't care.
iamnikki · 26-30, F
IDK but I'd like to know the outcome.
Ganon · 26-30, M
You're asking a bunch of socially inept people. Also, mentioning you're seven months pregnant is something you should've done during the interview process. That's pretty much common sense ngl
MrBrownstone · 41-45, M
Yes legally you don’t have to disclose if you are pregnant. Tell them the situation when they ask you to fly.
nedkelly · M
You, should have told immediately
Brassm0nk3y · 31-35, F
During the interview process? I’m not legally obligated to do that plus I didn’t even know if the job would be a fit[@5946,nedkelly]
jackj · 56-60, M
Polaroid taped to his or her computer screen.
Aboomachu · 31-35, M
Be direct about it.

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