We’ve all been invited to an extremely swish black tie dinner 11th December to thank us for our hard work to get the company up & running...

... this past year. Well, all but one; the guy I work with directly. Without him I’d have been dead in the water. All of us would, I really believe that.

But the top management don’t like him & now he’s inviteless.

If I go I hurt him & if I don’t go I hurt myself, career wise.

Ugh. What should I do?

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SW-User

You should decide whether you care about being fair or being a winner.

Not that it has to be one or the other. Sounds like a childish situation. Isolation isn’t right, especially when the person has helped you.

SevenTierCrazyCake · F

@SW-User I have to say that winning has never been important to me in general. The exceedly popular view that life is a competition just never took root in my brain.

It’s an awful situation, yes.

SW-User

Then take him with you. @SevenTierCrazyCake

SevenTierCrazyCake · F

@SW-User I cant. It’s not a party, it’s a dinner party

SW-User

@SevenTierCrazyCake, have you tried asking someone why he wasn’t included? Making a point to announce that it’s made you uncomfortable?

SevenTierCrazyCake · F

@SW-User apparently it’s for people who went above & beyond. Somehow him work till 1am every day for months doesn’t count.

The big bosses just don’t like him