How have you learnt to poker face it at work?

I don’t like my colleague. I think he is crafty and calculated. He is very manipulative and is overall scum.

My issue is I don’t know how to poker face it. I hate fake, crafty, sly and no integrity individuals. Cannot stand them. But I can’t keep letting my emotions get the better of me and be so apparent.

Do you have any advice?

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

You need to learn to compartmentalize. Keep your personal feelings in one box that only you can see, while put professional detachment in another box and let it run things when necessary.

outsidethebox18 · 31-35, F

@DunningKruger how can I learn to do this. Do I visualise kicking my colleagues face? But smile in real life.

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@outsidethebox18 Basically. I call it the smile and nod technique.

People aren't going to change to suit you. Trying to make them do so is a waste of time and effort, so more often than not, you just have to bite the pillow and take it. With practice, you can learn to not react, to just smile and nod, even if you're fuming inside. And then go off at the end of the day and let it all go, because it doesn't matter.

And revenge fantasies. Epic, detailed revenge fantasies also help a lot.

outsidethebox18 · 31-35, F

@DunningKruger LOL! This is actually really good advice! Thank you!

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I hate it when people are so obvious in their subterfuge. Like buttery lip service and flattery before asking for a favor. I am more than happy to help if I can, but 'buttering me up' pisses me off to no end! Fake smiles and fake words make me want to throttle someone.

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