Do I need anger management?

So… I recorded yesterdays meeting on my watch and captured our group dynamic. Even with a guest at the meeting they tried to provoke me. It’s only when I’m in groups too. Wtf.

I discovered two things.

1.) I think people take my silence as being hateful but most of the time I’m just chilling or waiting for their egos to drop so we can actually do something but then when I do speak I’m angry because they are trying to provoke me. So it may come off as I’m always quiet and angry when it’s really not the case.

2.) I might need anger management. I can hear it in my voice. I sound hateful but it’s only when I’m reacting to being provoked. Maybe there goal is to get a ride out of me.

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Jinxie · 51-55, F

Rise above it. We can’t control how others act, we can only control our actions/reactions. If you can, try and skip the meeting or ask for an agenda prior to joining. Whoever is facilitating the meeting should try to keep people on point to ensure the meeting flows and the goals of the meeting are met. Also, it may help to discuss with the facilitator to establish ground rules at the beginning of the meeting.

Reflective · 36-40, M

@Jinxie the person leading the meeting is the main culprit. That’s the problem. He starts it and gets the other person he still has control over to team up on me

Jinxie · 51-55, F

@Reflective I’d discuss your concerns with the facilitator or your manager. If he doesn’t resolve the conflict, ask to be removed from the project. Companies typically have policies against bullying and hostile environments.

Reflective · 36-40, M

@Jinxie I’ll try that again. Last time I went up there about someone I was made to feel like I was to blame for my treatment.