What do some medical professionals have against the very obese?

My wife just spent 10 days in hospital and at 689 lbs this is a vey daunting prospect.her basic needs were going to have to be done by a stranger not mer husband.Now a lot of the staff were very caring and fantastic there were some who seemed to dislike her straight away
Pointed comments
Not talking to her but about her like she was an object
Little quips
Questions like don’t you want to be healthy
That she was a drain on everyone.
It just seemed unnecessary when someone is already uncomfortable and scares.
So what’s the problem

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Willomk1 · 46-50, M

It wasn’t many most were wonderful just a few mainly older staff
And the diabetic consultant

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Willomk1 they are still professionals. I had at times reminded them that I'm right here, I have a name and am not just a case number, putting my humanity in their face. Have received apologies.

Having been in a coma, remember hearing them talk about me, but unable to speak out as trapped in my body with a ventilator, tubes and such .... We still can hear

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

I think she’s to afraid to say anything,that must have been so hard@Kstrong

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Willomk1 she needs to speak out! Remind them that shes a person, not just a case

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Yeah she very shy but as her room was by the nursing station she overheard some hurtful stuff@Kstrong]

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

@Kstrong your right

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Willomk1 I'm so sorry. They are professionals, need to remember other people can hear them talk, a family member may be around, and as her room is close to the nurses station, the nurses are passing their own judgement and be mindful of who may hear, including the patient

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Yeah the weren’t mainly on the night shift@Kstrong

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Willomk1 regardless of what shift they are working, they need to be professional and put themselves or a loved one in the patients place.... Would they want their loved one treated like that!

Willomk1 · 46-50, M

Very true@Kstrong