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Lose weight or I'll dip he said

So I got back with the ex, things are going alright, we're both on our own journeys of getting the right life we want, I need to move house, closer to my family, I need a new job whatever right.
I been unhappy with my weight for awhile, 80% of my wardrobe doesn't fit anymore, I miss my clothes, I miss the confidence I had when I slimmer, the whole thing.
My boyfriend sat me down and just told me "you need to lose weight, I'm not attracted to big girls, I met you curvy, you were like 160lbs, then you were looking amazing when u lost more weight, now you need to lose weight"

Part of me is really pissed off with him, how dare he tell me about my weight, but I know he's straightforward like that and he's the one that has to look at it too, my mum always said, don't make a man tell you twice, he's very fit and asked me if I would still be attracted to him if he was 300lbs, unfit, not active, poor stamina and I went quiet 😂
I get that, losing weight is something I want, but to be given an ultimatum by my man is kinda harsh.
5lutmuffin · F
Wanna know an easy way to drop 100+ lbs?

Hikikomoribabe99 · 22-25, F
@5lutmuffin lol, love SpongeBob.
The thing is I've been big before, the type of men that flock to u, is pure trash, so if we break up and I don't lose weight, I'm really out here with a small portion of men who I don't even like to date.
Big women still pull don't get it twisted, but majority of guys don't like big.
Yes, you can be mad at him if that suits you.
And ultimatums are always hard to hear...
But honestly, he may have just done you a favor...or several.
1) now you know what he is 'deep down' like...
2) carrying weight leads to all kinds of health problems... cardiovascular, gastric, pulmonary, fatty liver disease are just a few.
3) you are unhappy that your clothes don't fit, So change that.
4) and you yourself said :
losing weight is something I want
Hikikomoribabe99 · 22-25, F
@Threepio yh I'm gonna lose weight fr, but not because he say so and I'm definitely gonna be side eyeing him from now on lol
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
Is that all he sees in you? Leave him. He is full of lust and that's all he cares about because I guarantee you, even if you lost 150 pounds, he'd lust after somebody else. There's no quenching that because it's an uncontrollable passion that drives him, in which he seems so preoccupied with in his heart and mind, to being wholely sexually driven to infidelity and never finding satisfaction or even a sense of gratitude for a decent woman like you being in his life.
Well...yes.

But lose it young!
@SomeMichGuy
But lose it young!

That is true, because more often than not, if you gain a lot and lose it later in life... your skin never recovers to the elasticity it had when you were younger (IE leading to "bad stretch marks")
@Threepio I was just thinking of how

• it wears on the body
• it increases the chances of all kinds of problems
• it is easier to lose when one is younger.
WaafaS · 26-30, F
Who cares? he isn't worth you time anyways.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Obesity is fatal. You put yourself in this position. At least he was honest enough to tell you. He fell in love with a different “you”, perhaps one that cared how she looked.

There’s the sympathy response to this post and the reality response. Which are you honestly looking for?

You already know the truth…
almondflour · 46-50, F
If you are going to lose weight,lose weight for you and to better your own health. Don't do it for him. Once you lose weight, ditch him. If someone puts conditions on their love for you, that's not love. The one who loves you will still love you for better or for worse. Love yourself first.
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
At least he’s honest
Renaci · 36-40
Dump him. If he is this way now, when middle age hits both of you and looks and weight start to go he will leave you or cheat. He was an ex for a reason.

 
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