Was there a viable solution to the Home Rule crisis that might have avoided violence, or was conflict inevitable?

I see many women over 35 in relationships here in Japan—I live here myself—yet YouTube influencers post Shorts claiming that women over 35 are "discarded" and no longer considered options for relationships. What do you think?
Would downstream communities be justified in blocking supplies to India's Dibang dam site over unmet flood-protection demands?