Is it fair to dismiss someone's allegations of childhood abuse because they have a mental illness?

How is it possible for a guy to have hobbies and a life outside of work if he needs to sleep 12 hours a day due to hypothyroidism and genetics?
I struggle with feeling unapproachable and not lovable, and I feel blank sometimes. How do I deal with this?
How can both men and women navigate relationship dynamics to ensure mutual respect and understanding while avoiding misunderstandings?