What strategies do Geminis use to "destroy" the self-esteem of others, and why do they resort to this?

Do you find that the people who are most judgmental of your lifestyle are often the ones most curious about it?
Does the sound of the waves help you feel more at peace when you are missing someone?
Why do people often say they wish they started dancing earlier in life, and does this apply to martial arts as well?
What makes the belief that "everything that upsets you is karma" potentially damaging to a person's emotional well-being?