Are there empaths who aren't shaped by trauma, and if so, how do they differ in using their empathetic abilities?

Do you prefer having a financial professional make the investment decisions, or do you like to stay involved in the decisions?
Can an ENFJ and an INFJ truly understand each other without having to constantly explain their feelings and thoughts? How does that dynamic work in a relationship?
Do you find it easy to ignore the opinions of people you do not respect?
How do you control the information you consume to fight mental battles and stay productive on your own?