How can someone overcome the fear of loneliness or judgment that leads them to make dishonest choices in love?

How can you recognize the cycle of procrastination, shame, and scapegoating in a covert narcissist, and what strategies can help break this cycle?
What do you think of Trump's new hairstyle that has swapped his trademark blond hair for brunette? Will this change go down as the greatest hairstyle ever, or the act of a desperate and failing old man?