Is the act of proving your identity to yourself more important than proving it to the people around you?

In what ways do INFJs read between the lines in social situations, and how accurate are these perceptions usually?
What signs indicate that a therapy client is close to a breakthrough when they're worried about their therapist leaving them?
What is an unneeded stressor that couples voluntarily invite into their homes by trying to please everyone except each other?
How do you respond to people who can't give comebacks and make up nonsense?