How do you know when you’re sharing your inner life versus placing the weight of it on someone else?

How can differences in work ethic, household responsibilities, and personal goals affect a marriage between a hardworking person and a financially successful but unmotivated person?
In what ways have you seen "people turning in their neighbors" during COVID, as Soviet-born analyst Michael Malice argued?
How do smaller communities typically react to having a celebrity among them for an extended period?