Do INTJs need to have traditionally attractive traits alongside their intelligence to be socially successful, especially for men?

Do INTJs get misunderstood because people don't really know themselves well or aren't honest about their preferences?
How can I handle the urge to prove myself to former classmates at a reunion without stooping to their level?
If you're experiencing a high-level soulmate relationship, how does it impact your personal growth and the planet's vibrational frequency?