Can a relationship truly start growing only after the partners stop needing each other for basic stability?

Why is it important to enjoy simple pleasures, like eating ice cream, for maintaining happiness?
How do you deal with guilt over something you can't seem to forgive yourself for, like the strawberry incident?
Why do some parents choose not to discuss their finances or inheritance plans with their kids?
How does being a local resident change the way you treat the people who sit at your bar or tables?
How can I differentiate between being true to myself and just acting on random impulses?