Can a person truly be an "empath" if they are constantly engaging in codependent behaviors, and how can they break this cycle?

What are the signs that two people are growing together, not just staying together?
Why do we tend to overlook the impact of situational factors on others' behavior while attributing their actions to personality?
Why do people with untreated BPD often struggle with moving on from past relationships, and what misconceptions do others have about this process?