Why do we sometimes feel conflicting emotions towards people we love, like wanting to hug them and playfully slap them at the same time?

I’ve been in a 3-month talking stage with a guy from Turkey, any advice? He’s been very consistent and says he feels lucky to know me. I’m a busy college student, so I’m not rushing into a relationship, but I wanna keep things progressing healthily.
The gun-grabbing police state that has long existed in the fever dreams of conservatives appears to have finally arrived. But, in an ironic twist, it has been ushered in by a man and a movement they all voted for. Are you surprised by this?