In today's world of quick judgments, how do you ensure your reputation for directness isn't mistaken for harshness?

He ghosted me on the day we were supposed to meet. I was so excited I couldn’t sleep. I woke up to disappointment. He never showed up. What should I do?
Why do my parents get mad at me for staying inside my room most of the time? Personally, I just can’t stand being in the living room with my parents because I have this fear where it feels like they’re going to judge or criticize something I do.