What personality traits make some charismatic leaders adept at inspiring the best from their players?

Why did my parents think that I just wanted a relationship with my kid’s dad? I was just obsessed with him it was so obvious it was like an extreme attachment.
Three years ago, I recently started liking this guy, and we've grown really close over the years. My best friend just told me she liked him a month ago, and I don't want to hurt her. What should I do?