What strategies can INFPs use to avoid coming across as too needy or too aloof when dating someone new?

Why does my girlfriend try to make herself pretty with makeup? As her boyfriend, doesn’t she know I'm prettier than her?
President Biden wouldn't have been caught dead shaking Putin's hand after the invasion of Ukraine. Isn't it obvious to everyone, what a sleazy crook Trump is, trashing the US Constitution one day, and International Law on the next?