Do you ever wonder if you’ll hear the words, “ I love you”, again?

I've been dating a guy for 9 months. We’ve only seen three times he's separated. He always has an excuse not to meet. Why?
Is it normal to feel like as a white guy in my 20s I’m at a disadvantage dating? I feel like I see so many women saying they don’t find white guys attractive. Only black and Hispanic men. Is this normal or just lack of confidence?