Is it normal for someone to avoid places where they might run into someone they’re not interested in anymore?

Why do people say men want a submissive woman. Then whenever I mention I have an obedient subservient personality especially in relationships, everyone acts like something is wrong with me and I’m crazy?
How do twin flame runners deal with the internal conflict of wanting to reconnect but being afraid or unwilling to do so?
What's a good response to someone who pats you on the back out of pity and therefore looks like a good guy to all others because of course it can be interpreted in different ways?