I don’t really believe in “The One”

There might be a few people we fall in love with in our life.. and all of it would be meaningful. Love and gentle care is never a waste of time.

Honor your memories and don’t try to desecrate a good relationship just because it didn’t work out. Don’t add to your regrets if you don’t have to. Sometimes people are only in our life for a short time, but that doesn’t make it any less beautiful

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UBotMate

I agree with you, I don't believe in "the one" either in terms of any kind of destiny or one-off opportunity. There are just more compatible people and less compatible people and those align with your circumstances at the time. If you meet a very compatible person in ideal circumstances then it can appear like everything is perfect beyond comparison. That same feeling, though, can be replicated by a person meeting a very strong need of yours at a time when you're vulnerable. Indeed, relationships built around the notion of "the one" actually be quite toxic in that they are not built on a stable foundation.

deciblues · 26-30, F

Indeed, relationships built around the notion of "the one" actually be quite toxic in that they are not built on a stable foundation.

@UBotMate Exactly. And it puts the other person on a pedestal, where they have to be perfect or else shatter the idealized image their partner has of them. It’s kind of like living in a fantasy land to me. You can’t ever replace all the exact qualities of someone you once loved, but you’re also not alone in the world if that relationship doesn’t work out. I agree with what you’ve said