I don’t really believe in “The One”

There might be a few people we fall in love with in our life.. and all of it would be meaningful. Love and gentle care is never a waste of time.

Honor your memories and don’t try to desecrate a good relationship just because it didn’t work out. Don’t add to your regrets if you don’t have to. Sometimes people are only in our life for a short time, but that doesn’t make it any less beautiful

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deciblues · 26-30, F

I think that I’m mainly coming from a place of believing that “The One” can be a harmful way of thinking about romance, because it can instill anxiety and second-guessing in the relationship, as well as afterwards if it ever comes to an end. I do believe that it would be unfortunate to view any good relationship as “a waste of time”. That’s one way to make yourself miserable and bitter. I think that’s why people talk so much about how much different periods in their life have helped them grow, or taught them things. Because if you see any part of your life as a waste, then you’re doomed to this eternal, sick feeling of regret when you look back. No bueno. Open-mindedness promotes resiliency. We’re always learning things

deciblues · 26-30, F

@deciblues I wish that Kara didn’t move on with other friends, but it was still a really sweet dynamic and I don’t regret it

The dynamic with [redacted] was a bit sick, but it helped me realize for the first time that I’m capable of falling in love.. that I’m not a completely dysfunctional human being

A lot of people in relationships like to be guaranteed a happily ever after, but that isn’t reality for everybody. On a humorous note, imagine if everything we ever wanted in life was guaranteed to us. Our heads would spin off of our neck, trying to keep up with it