When you host a birthday party, are you the type of person to invite everyone you know?
Or do you keep it to only a few close friends?
What about when it comes to casual plans: Do you hang out with people every day after school, or would you rather go home and recharge alone?
How about when you meet someone new: Do you usually connect really quickly, or do you take a little longer to warm up?
These are all examples of different friendship styles, and in the quiz “Butterfly or Firefly: What’s Your Friendship Style?,” Catherine Pearson invites you to find out yours. She writes:
Do you like to plumb the depths of a new acquaintance’s soul? Or are you surprisingly skilled at small talk? We all need social connection, but we thrive in different ways.
So we partnered with Kasley Killam, a social scientist and author of the new book “The Art and Science of Connection,” to develop this quiz.
Keep in mind that this is not a formal diagnostic, and none of the friendship styles she defined in her book is better than the others. Still, these questions may help you better understand how you approach social interaction — and encourage you to stretch out of your comfort zone.
My students, take the quiz and then tell me:
What is your friendship style, according to the quiz? Does it seem accurate? Why or why not?
How do you think knowing your friendship style can benefit you and your relationships?
When it comes to friendships, what do you think your “superpower” is? For example, are you a good listener, an excellent connector, the life of the party? Explain.
How satisfied are you with your friendships overall? Do you think your ties could be stronger or your bonds deeper? Do you wish you had more social connection in general — or maybe less?
This past summer, the Well section ran a friendship challenge to help readers revive and strengthen their relationships. Take a look. Do you think any of the suggested strategies could help you?
What advice do you have for other teenagers who are looking to make more friends or to improve the relationships they already have?
According to the quiz, I am a butterfly. I am pretty satisfied with my relationships but I wish I had more personal, close friends and maybe I just need to work on myself more. Maybe working on my relationships and just being a better person I can gain deeper bonds with my friends. I am pretty social, but I don’t have too many close personal friends other than one person. Sometimes I wish I had less social connections and sometimes I wish I had more social connections. This is because I have been trying to find a personal friend but it is hard to have a personal friend because you also need to work on yourself and I would rather be working on myself more than to hurt someone while growing. I try to go around and have small talk with everyone so I can feel how the mood is with everyone and I like to do so I can get everyone's opinions on certain things and just make the mood of the conversation more fun than before. I also just want people to be happy and just try giving people a pleasant mood when talking so they don’t feel alone or sad and if they are sad that day I could cheer them up a bit. They aren’t wrong about me being social but I also have a very non cheery introverted personality as well sometimes so it just depends on the day I go out and how my has been too.
According to the quiz, I am a firefly. If I could have guessed my result beforehand, l'm sure this would have been it. I have great friends, and love hanging out with them - I try to whenever I can.
Suddenly finding myself a junior in high school has almost terrified me into attending more social events, since soon my friends and I will be going our separate ways. However, sometimes my favorite part of the week - the time that recharges me most - is the time spent alone, in my room. Not worrying about who is mad at who, or who likes who. I'm not ashamed to admit that some nights, knitting alone while watching YouTube sounds much more enticing than spending time with people I don't even like. My advice to other teens would be to have the most fun possible hanging out with your friends and making memories, but don’t forget to spend some time with yourself.
When I took this quiz, the result I got was a wallflower. I mostly agree with that. Although I do tend to be introverted—requiring alone time and avoiding big group settings— I still enjoy parties and hanging out with my close friends. However, I also think one of my best traits mimics a common attribute of wallflowers: being a good listener. Even though when I get really into a conversation I can talk just as much as everyone else, I am really good at listening to others and letting other people do most of the talking. While the quiz results were fairly accurate for me, I believe it is impossible to narrow down everyone into a few categories of friendship, so the quiz is not entirely accurate.
The advice I would give to teenagers trying to improve their friendships or relationships around them is an open line of communication. Communicating is an important concept regarding connection with others and allows for comfortability and closeness to grow. Another important tool in creating or improving friendships is being your authentic self. Being yourself is one of the most important aspect in creating friendships because it allows for you to develop real friendships that don’t have a fake or false narrative. Being yourself allows you to connect with people you actually enjoy being around and allows you to understand the type of group you need to surround yourself with in order to be happy.
When I took this quiz, it told me that I am more of a firefly than a butterfly. After reading the description on what it was and what "being a firefly" really signified, I think it was pretty accurate. It said that my social battery recharges after I spend a day hanging out with my friends, or just interacting or being in public. I love to connect deeply with others, and just have real conversations, but I also need to get outside and do an activity! I try to keep my calendar full on the weekends and some weekdays, but when I need to get things done, I make sure they get done. I also love to just sit around, watching my favorite show on Netflix, or spending time with family. Feeling safe and comfortable is always a must-have for me!
I see myself as a wallflower, and it feels accurate because I relate to many of its traits. Understanding your style as a friend can help strengthen relationships with friends and family since it allows you to work on yourself first. I believe my superpower is being a good listener. I often listen to the problems of my friends and family and can offer good and helpful advice. I think the tips from the link could help improve relationships for me and others.
I am a wallflower, and I think this is accurate as I relate to most of its description. Knowing your friend style can improve your relationships with friends and family as you know how to improve yourself before you improve the relationship. I think my superpower is being a good listener. Often II can listen to friends and family's problems and even give advice. I think the strategies provided from the link can help me and many others with their relationships.
After taking the quiz, I found out that my friendship style is a firefly. I find this evaluation to be fairly accurate because it says I limit the amount of social engagements in a week or a month but when I do hang out I am deeply connected with others. I feel this is very accurate because when I talk with someone I like to talk about life and not just make small talk. It also says I need to solitude to recharge which is also true. I think that this result is very accurate as I am not always the most social person but when I do socialize with my friends or family I have deep talks and I am a good listener. I also think it is very valuable to have a heart-to-heart rather than small talking and this quiz confirms that about me.
According to the friendship style quiz, I am a "wallflower." In my opinion, all of the characteristics of a wallflower do not apply to me. For example, I do not prefer to keep my "social calendar fairly light" and am not "drawn to more casual forms of connection." Instead, I enjoy being surrounded by my close group of friends and I prefer to spend time with them often. I have casual forms of connection with several friends, but I have a deep connection with most of my close friends. However, some of the characteristics of a "wallflower" do apply to me. According to the quiz, a wallflower is shy, which I somewhat agree with. I am shy around people I am not familiar with and have not formed a connection with because I am in constant fear of being judged, but with my close group of friends I am outgoing, as they make me feel comfortable. Additionally, I agree that I am "...sensitive to what's going on around [me]." I am aware of my surroundings and know a lot about the people around me. Knowing my friendship style is helpful because I can work on my shortcomings as a friend and push myself to be more outgoing with the new people I meet.
According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there is people I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself.
The quiz determined my friendship style as a "Firefly". I believe this is quite accurate because one of the descriptions for this friendship style is limiting social engagements which I tend to do quite often. Another attribute that reflects me is being tentative and profound in group interactions and also the trait of recharging through solitude. I incline towards deeper connections with my friends by listening and responding genuinely. This is because I believe that being clearer and more honest with others creates more fond and memorable interactions and also it leads to less drama with friends by staying unfeigned and imperceptible. A piece of advice I would give to other teenagers to make more friends would to be kind, genuine, and to not go out of your way to change yourself or what you are comfortable with just to fit in with others.
When it comes to friendships, I think my superpower would be listening to people because I feel like I am a very good listener and understand people a lot better than others might do. I also understand that when people are talking, I know when to tell the truth and if not give back some constructive criticism. In some situations, people are not built or prepared for what people may have to say to them, but I am able to learn quickly and figure out what to say in the heat of the moment. Also not everyone are as mature as others and I feel responsible enough to take every conversation serious or at least match the energy to the person I'm conversing with.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is that of a firefly, and I find it quite accurate because I thrive on spontaneity and enjoy connecting with my close friends, though I sometimes prefer to keep things casual. Understanding my friendship style helps me recognize how I interact with others, allowing me to be more mindful of their needs and strengthen our bonds. I believe my "superpower" in friendships is being a great listener; I genuinely enjoy hearing my friends' thoughts and feelings, which fosters trust and deeper connections. Overall, I feel satisfied with my friendships, though I think some ties could be stronger, and I occasionally wish for deeper connections. I sometimes crave more social interaction, while other times, I need to recharge on my own. I believe some strategies from the friendship challenge, like reaching out more regularly or planning fun activities, could definitely help me revive and strengthen my relationships.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is firefly, and I think that it is a fairly accurate result. I don't usually have too many social engagements in a given week outside of talking with my friends or family. However, when I do, I listen closely to the conversation and pay attention to what is being said, so I think that the quiz was accurate here. In addition, the results also said that when I connect, I connect deeply, but I don't believe that this is always the case. Even though I know most if not all my friends deeply, I don't get to know everyone I talk to on a personal level. Despite this I think that the quiz was still fairly accurate in saying that for the most part I stay around the people that I know, and I tend to limit social interaction by not deeply conversing with people who I don't know.
My friendship style is firefly, and I think it is pretty accurate overall, that's just who I am. As a firefly, I do limit my social engagements, but when it comes to my close friends or people that I am connected with, I can be very talkative and as the quiz description stated, "light up." Another reason why I think the firefly friendship style is accurate is because my way of relaxing is to be by myself and wind down. For instance, if I were relaxing, I would be watching a television show or reading a book. in friendships I think my superpower would be that I am a good listener and connector. Personally, I find very important to be able to have connections with others to have a good friendship. According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there is people I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself. When I was younger, in elementary school I was always the loud one/ talking to anyone I saw. I was always meeting new people and making new friends, whether that was in school or at a park, etc. Overtime, as I matured, I found myself more as a listener rather than, talking to a lot of people. As I got older going into high school, my friend group got smaller. I feel like this is due to people changing or friendships not lasting from an argument. You don't need many friends, just people you can trust and count on anytime, whether that's 3 friend's or just 1 friend.
Some advice that I would give to other teenagers with making more friends and improving relationship is to be open and approchable. Maybe have a good body language, this invites others to engage with you. Another thing is to join clubs and activities, this allows you to meet people with similar interests, this is a great foundation to a friendship. Another thing is to be yourself, you don't want be somebody your not just to fit in. To improve a relationship you could also continue to talk to them after meeting up and invite them to hang out more. Also be inclusive and allow other who are outsiders to join your friend group. This allows you to show kindness and gain friendship.
The friendship style I received was firefly. I believe this is an accurate representation because I tend to be more closed off to others once I've found a group of friends. I'm less likely to socialize with other people just for the sake of doing it, but of course I try to keep an open mind when I do. I also tend to have a low social reserve and can burn out from socializing quickly. Nevertheless, I value spending time with my friends and tend to become a quite hyper person when I truly get comfortable with someone. Although it takes a while for me to get comfortable, when I do it usually results in a great friendship. Additionally, I find that I value my personal time incredibly, especially from a long day of school. Overall, the test seems to be accurate as firefly represents my introverted tendencies.
Upon completing the friendship style quiz, the result indicated that I am a wallflower. This characterization resonates with me as I often find myself being reserved in larger social settings, preferring to observe and listen rather than take center stage. I choose to spend my time selectively, as I prioritize activities that bring me fulfillment or comfort. My unique "superpower" lies in my keen observational skills, allowing me to notice specific details in my environment. For this, my sensitivity depends on the environment. It helps me analyze or help me understand people and the situations I'm faced with.
My friendship style is all about how I connect with my friends and help them out. I’m usually the one who listens and gives advice when someone needs to talk. But sometimes, I’m more of the adventurous one, always ready to try something new or go somewhere fun. I’m also the planner in the group, making sure we actually hang out and do things together. If my friends are going through a tough time, I’m the supporter, trying to help however I can. I really value having a close group of friends, but I also like meeting new people and expanding my circle. How I act depends on the situation, but I always try to be there for my friends in different ways.
According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there are people, I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself.
I have a wallflower on the friendship style test. According to the description I am selective about how I spend my time, and I like more casual forms of connection. Even though the questions were broad, I feel this fits my friendship well. It's good to know my friendship style because I wouldn't need to try and push myself to be someone I'm not. According to the wallflower description, my “superpower” is that I'm taking in information, always, and I'm sensitive to what’s going on around you. I agree with this superpower because I am quieter and observant in big group settings instead of talking along with everyone else. I'm satisfied with my friendships overall.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is firefly. I think that the result is relatively accurate because I tend to spend a fair amount of time in solitude and enjoy it, while also spending some time with close friends and having deep connections with them. Furthermore, those with the friendship style of firefly are supposed to be good listeners. I think this applies to me because often when my friends need someone to talk to, I am the first one to converse with them. I also think that it is rather easy for me to develop deep, strong relationships in comparison to others. However, Kasley Killam, the scientist who developed this quiz, thinks that fireflies have a difficult to time making small talk with others. While this may be true for some, I think I have the gift of both being able to make small talk and deep conversation.
What about when it comes to casual plans: Do you hang out with people every day after school, or would you rather go home and recharge alone?
How about when you meet someone new: Do you usually connect really quickly, or do you take a little longer to warm up?
These are all examples of different friendship styles, and in the quiz “Butterfly or Firefly: What’s Your Friendship Style?,” Catherine Pearson invites you to find out yours. She writes:
Do you like to plumb the depths of a new acquaintance’s soul? Or are you surprisingly skilled at small talk? We all need social connection, but we thrive in different ways.
So we partnered with Kasley Killam, a social scientist and author of the new book “The Art and Science of Connection,” to develop this quiz.
Keep in mind that this is not a formal diagnostic, and none of the friendship styles she defined in her book is better than the others. Still, these questions may help you better understand how you approach social interaction — and encourage you to stretch out of your comfort zone.
My students, take the quiz and then tell me:
What is your friendship style, according to the quiz? Does it seem accurate? Why or why not?
How do you think knowing your friendship style can benefit you and your relationships?
When it comes to friendships, what do you think your “superpower” is? For example, are you a good listener, an excellent connector, the life of the party? Explain.
How satisfied are you with your friendships overall? Do you think your ties could be stronger or your bonds deeper? Do you wish you had more social connection in general — or maybe less?
This past summer, the Well section ran a friendship challenge to help readers revive and strengthen their relationships. Take a look. Do you think any of the suggested strategies could help you?
What advice do you have for other teenagers who are looking to make more friends or to improve the relationships they already have?
According to the quiz, I am a butterfly. I am pretty satisfied with my relationships but I wish I had more personal, close friends and maybe I just need to work on myself more. Maybe working on my relationships and just being a better person I can gain deeper bonds with my friends. I am pretty social, but I don’t have too many close personal friends other than one person. Sometimes I wish I had less social connections and sometimes I wish I had more social connections. This is because I have been trying to find a personal friend but it is hard to have a personal friend because you also need to work on yourself and I would rather be working on myself more than to hurt someone while growing. I try to go around and have small talk with everyone so I can feel how the mood is with everyone and I like to do so I can get everyone's opinions on certain things and just make the mood of the conversation more fun than before. I also just want people to be happy and just try giving people a pleasant mood when talking so they don’t feel alone or sad and if they are sad that day I could cheer them up a bit. They aren’t wrong about me being social but I also have a very non cheery introverted personality as well sometimes so it just depends on the day I go out and how my has been too.
According to the quiz, I am a firefly. If I could have guessed my result beforehand, l'm sure this would have been it. I have great friends, and love hanging out with them - I try to whenever I can.
Suddenly finding myself a junior in high school has almost terrified me into attending more social events, since soon my friends and I will be going our separate ways. However, sometimes my favorite part of the week - the time that recharges me most - is the time spent alone, in my room. Not worrying about who is mad at who, or who likes who. I'm not ashamed to admit that some nights, knitting alone while watching YouTube sounds much more enticing than spending time with people I don't even like. My advice to other teens would be to have the most fun possible hanging out with your friends and making memories, but don’t forget to spend some time with yourself.
When I took this quiz, the result I got was a wallflower. I mostly agree with that. Although I do tend to be introverted—requiring alone time and avoiding big group settings— I still enjoy parties and hanging out with my close friends. However, I also think one of my best traits mimics a common attribute of wallflowers: being a good listener. Even though when I get really into a conversation I can talk just as much as everyone else, I am really good at listening to others and letting other people do most of the talking. While the quiz results were fairly accurate for me, I believe it is impossible to narrow down everyone into a few categories of friendship, so the quiz is not entirely accurate.
The advice I would give to teenagers trying to improve their friendships or relationships around them is an open line of communication. Communicating is an important concept regarding connection with others and allows for comfortability and closeness to grow. Another important tool in creating or improving friendships is being your authentic self. Being yourself is one of the most important aspect in creating friendships because it allows for you to develop real friendships that don’t have a fake or false narrative. Being yourself allows you to connect with people you actually enjoy being around and allows you to understand the type of group you need to surround yourself with in order to be happy.
When I took this quiz, it told me that I am more of a firefly than a butterfly. After reading the description on what it was and what "being a firefly" really signified, I think it was pretty accurate. It said that my social battery recharges after I spend a day hanging out with my friends, or just interacting or being in public. I love to connect deeply with others, and just have real conversations, but I also need to get outside and do an activity! I try to keep my calendar full on the weekends and some weekdays, but when I need to get things done, I make sure they get done. I also love to just sit around, watching my favorite show on Netflix, or spending time with family. Feeling safe and comfortable is always a must-have for me!
I see myself as a wallflower, and it feels accurate because I relate to many of its traits. Understanding your style as a friend can help strengthen relationships with friends and family since it allows you to work on yourself first. I believe my superpower is being a good listener. I often listen to the problems of my friends and family and can offer good and helpful advice. I think the tips from the link could help improve relationships for me and others.
I am a wallflower, and I think this is accurate as I relate to most of its description. Knowing your friend style can improve your relationships with friends and family as you know how to improve yourself before you improve the relationship. I think my superpower is being a good listener. Often II can listen to friends and family's problems and even give advice. I think the strategies provided from the link can help me and many others with their relationships.
After taking the quiz, I found out that my friendship style is a firefly. I find this evaluation to be fairly accurate because it says I limit the amount of social engagements in a week or a month but when I do hang out I am deeply connected with others. I feel this is very accurate because when I talk with someone I like to talk about life and not just make small talk. It also says I need to solitude to recharge which is also true. I think that this result is very accurate as I am not always the most social person but when I do socialize with my friends or family I have deep talks and I am a good listener. I also think it is very valuable to have a heart-to-heart rather than small talking and this quiz confirms that about me.
According to the friendship style quiz, I am a "wallflower." In my opinion, all of the characteristics of a wallflower do not apply to me. For example, I do not prefer to keep my "social calendar fairly light" and am not "drawn to more casual forms of connection." Instead, I enjoy being surrounded by my close group of friends and I prefer to spend time with them often. I have casual forms of connection with several friends, but I have a deep connection with most of my close friends. However, some of the characteristics of a "wallflower" do apply to me. According to the quiz, a wallflower is shy, which I somewhat agree with. I am shy around people I am not familiar with and have not formed a connection with because I am in constant fear of being judged, but with my close group of friends I am outgoing, as they make me feel comfortable. Additionally, I agree that I am "...sensitive to what's going on around [me]." I am aware of my surroundings and know a lot about the people around me. Knowing my friendship style is helpful because I can work on my shortcomings as a friend and push myself to be more outgoing with the new people I meet.
According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there is people I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself.
The quiz determined my friendship style as a "Firefly". I believe this is quite accurate because one of the descriptions for this friendship style is limiting social engagements which I tend to do quite often. Another attribute that reflects me is being tentative and profound in group interactions and also the trait of recharging through solitude. I incline towards deeper connections with my friends by listening and responding genuinely. This is because I believe that being clearer and more honest with others creates more fond and memorable interactions and also it leads to less drama with friends by staying unfeigned and imperceptible. A piece of advice I would give to other teenagers to make more friends would to be kind, genuine, and to not go out of your way to change yourself or what you are comfortable with just to fit in with others.
When it comes to friendships, I think my superpower would be listening to people because I feel like I am a very good listener and understand people a lot better than others might do. I also understand that when people are talking, I know when to tell the truth and if not give back some constructive criticism. In some situations, people are not built or prepared for what people may have to say to them, but I am able to learn quickly and figure out what to say in the heat of the moment. Also not everyone are as mature as others and I feel responsible enough to take every conversation serious or at least match the energy to the person I'm conversing with.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is that of a firefly, and I find it quite accurate because I thrive on spontaneity and enjoy connecting with my close friends, though I sometimes prefer to keep things casual. Understanding my friendship style helps me recognize how I interact with others, allowing me to be more mindful of their needs and strengthen our bonds. I believe my "superpower" in friendships is being a great listener; I genuinely enjoy hearing my friends' thoughts and feelings, which fosters trust and deeper connections. Overall, I feel satisfied with my friendships, though I think some ties could be stronger, and I occasionally wish for deeper connections. I sometimes crave more social interaction, while other times, I need to recharge on my own. I believe some strategies from the friendship challenge, like reaching out more regularly or planning fun activities, could definitely help me revive and strengthen my relationships.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is firefly, and I think that it is a fairly accurate result. I don't usually have too many social engagements in a given week outside of talking with my friends or family. However, when I do, I listen closely to the conversation and pay attention to what is being said, so I think that the quiz was accurate here. In addition, the results also said that when I connect, I connect deeply, but I don't believe that this is always the case. Even though I know most if not all my friends deeply, I don't get to know everyone I talk to on a personal level. Despite this I think that the quiz was still fairly accurate in saying that for the most part I stay around the people that I know, and I tend to limit social interaction by not deeply conversing with people who I don't know.
My friendship style is firefly, and I think it is pretty accurate overall, that's just who I am. As a firefly, I do limit my social engagements, but when it comes to my close friends or people that I am connected with, I can be very talkative and as the quiz description stated, "light up." Another reason why I think the firefly friendship style is accurate is because my way of relaxing is to be by myself and wind down. For instance, if I were relaxing, I would be watching a television show or reading a book. in friendships I think my superpower would be that I am a good listener and connector. Personally, I find very important to be able to have connections with others to have a good friendship. According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there is people I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself. When I was younger, in elementary school I was always the loud one/ talking to anyone I saw. I was always meeting new people and making new friends, whether that was in school or at a park, etc. Overtime, as I matured, I found myself more as a listener rather than, talking to a lot of people. As I got older going into high school, my friend group got smaller. I feel like this is due to people changing or friendships not lasting from an argument. You don't need many friends, just people you can trust and count on anytime, whether that's 3 friend's or just 1 friend.
Some advice that I would give to other teenagers with making more friends and improving relationship is to be open and approchable. Maybe have a good body language, this invites others to engage with you. Another thing is to join clubs and activities, this allows you to meet people with similar interests, this is a great foundation to a friendship. Another thing is to be yourself, you don't want be somebody your not just to fit in. To improve a relationship you could also continue to talk to them after meeting up and invite them to hang out more. Also be inclusive and allow other who are outsiders to join your friend group. This allows you to show kindness and gain friendship.
The friendship style I received was firefly. I believe this is an accurate representation because I tend to be more closed off to others once I've found a group of friends. I'm less likely to socialize with other people just for the sake of doing it, but of course I try to keep an open mind when I do. I also tend to have a low social reserve and can burn out from socializing quickly. Nevertheless, I value spending time with my friends and tend to become a quite hyper person when I truly get comfortable with someone. Although it takes a while for me to get comfortable, when I do it usually results in a great friendship. Additionally, I find that I value my personal time incredibly, especially from a long day of school. Overall, the test seems to be accurate as firefly represents my introverted tendencies.
Upon completing the friendship style quiz, the result indicated that I am a wallflower. This characterization resonates with me as I often find myself being reserved in larger social settings, preferring to observe and listen rather than take center stage. I choose to spend my time selectively, as I prioritize activities that bring me fulfillment or comfort. My unique "superpower" lies in my keen observational skills, allowing me to notice specific details in my environment. For this, my sensitivity depends on the environment. It helps me analyze or help me understand people and the situations I'm faced with.
My friendship style is all about how I connect with my friends and help them out. I’m usually the one who listens and gives advice when someone needs to talk. But sometimes, I’m more of the adventurous one, always ready to try something new or go somewhere fun. I’m also the planner in the group, making sure we actually hang out and do things together. If my friends are going through a tough time, I’m the supporter, trying to help however I can. I really value having a close group of friends, but I also like meeting new people and expanding my circle. How I act depends on the situation, but I always try to be there for my friends in different ways.
According to the friendship style quiz, my friendship style is a "Wallflower". In my opinion, this is an accurate result. I believe this because I usually stay with one decently small group of friends. Another reason I believe this is accurate is because I tend to listen a lot more than I talk especially if I meet someone new. I don't usually like to go out places if there are people, I've never met going with me. I also tend to just not attend big parties and usually keep my social schedule open. I usually don't do things with a lot of other people. I see these results as accurate because I usually keep to a small group of friends or keep to myself.
I have a wallflower on the friendship style test. According to the description I am selective about how I spend my time, and I like more casual forms of connection. Even though the questions were broad, I feel this fits my friendship well. It's good to know my friendship style because I wouldn't need to try and push myself to be someone I'm not. According to the wallflower description, my “superpower” is that I'm taking in information, always, and I'm sensitive to what’s going on around you. I agree with this superpower because I am quieter and observant in big group settings instead of talking along with everyone else. I'm satisfied with my friendships overall.
According to the quiz, my friendship style is firefly. I think that the result is relatively accurate because I tend to spend a fair amount of time in solitude and enjoy it, while also spending some time with close friends and having deep connections with them. Furthermore, those with the friendship style of firefly are supposed to be good listeners. I think this applies to me because often when my friends need someone to talk to, I am the first one to converse with them. I also think that it is rather easy for me to develop deep, strong relationships in comparison to others. However, Kasley Killam, the scientist who developed this quiz, thinks that fireflies have a difficult to time making small talk with others. While this may be true for some, I think I have the gift of both being able to make small talk and deep conversation.
