Can somebody please explain to me what the phrase "you must be fun at parties" even means?
I don’t understand the appeal to being in a crowded room with dozens of people all bouncing up and down to loud music, nor does getting shit faced to the point you don’t remember anything sound fun. And if you’re using parties to hookup, that just sounds miserable and annoying trying to deal with either both of you being drunk or just one. Even if you do with friends or a date you can’t hear each other without shouting and even then you still might not hear each other.
And if it’s not a rave or something, just a massive get together, if you’re a host or attendant, you won’t get to hangout with everyone there. They’ll all just kind of form up in their own little groups.
Even in stuff like birthday parties, after a certain number of people they’ll all be in their own groups: be that teams for something like paintball or top golf. At BEST you’ll be able to say “Hi!” And “thanks for coming!” To everyone, and that’s if you’re the host. Otherwise even if you’re friends with everyone there good luck.
An ideal “party” would be being with four or five of your closest friends doing stuff or watching movies or playing video games or something. Or an online party for gaming or zoom or something. We've all seen this used as a reply to someone who is being a downer or square in the comment sections but whenever someone uses this generic comment reply I can't help but to think that that person is not that much fun at parties either. The comment is generic, lame, lacks originality and is overused much like calling someone a Karen. I am not entirely sure if this is unpopular but with that being said I seem to see it getting used daily and the comments always seem to generate a heap of upvotes, likes, and laugh reacts so here I am and this is my Unpopular Opinion. For some time now I have thought about why do I not enjoy going to parties and whether that make me weird. I'm young man, below drinking age and waiting to do it legally, so I have problem to enjoy company of even my friends when they are drunk. Hell, I don't even like staying all night. Is it normal? Is there any MBTI explanation for this? It is an insult, a stupid one, because:
I mainly see it used whenever someone tries to use logic in their comment or prove to be knowledgeable. It is basically insulting intelligence on the premise it is not fun. It basically tries to dumb down people so we are all the same.
It assumes everyone find fun in the same activities. Fun isn't a socially agreeable thing. No matter how much you try to push something not everyone will think it is funny. Not everyone likes parties, getting drunk untill they feel sick, hooking up and so on and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you want to insult someone at least find something truly bad about them, not the fact that they proved not to be an idiot or don't enjoy what you do. I see this phrase used a lot, mainly on social media and particularly on Facebook, usually in the context of a debate or a back and forth conversation in where one party is trying to put forth a potentially unpopular argument, and I often see this phrase used as a cheap throwaway line.
For example today I was debating with someone on Facebook as to why it's unethical to lie on your resume to get a job, and someone, who hadn't even been in the conversation prior piped up and commented "Ohhhhh, I bet you're so much fun at parties".
Like, what was the actual point of commenting that?, the subject matter we're debating would almost never come up in a party setting, and it's a bit of an assumption to try and say that just because I'm taking a particular stance on a social issue I've got no ability to be fun at parties.
It's a ridiculous statement, and I've never understood why it's used. It doesn't further any particular position, it's just a statement, a pointless, meaningless statement.
And if it’s not a rave or something, just a massive get together, if you’re a host or attendant, you won’t get to hangout with everyone there. They’ll all just kind of form up in their own little groups.
Even in stuff like birthday parties, after a certain number of people they’ll all be in their own groups: be that teams for something like paintball or top golf. At BEST you’ll be able to say “Hi!” And “thanks for coming!” To everyone, and that’s if you’re the host. Otherwise even if you’re friends with everyone there good luck.
An ideal “party” would be being with four or five of your closest friends doing stuff or watching movies or playing video games or something. Or an online party for gaming or zoom or something. We've all seen this used as a reply to someone who is being a downer or square in the comment sections but whenever someone uses this generic comment reply I can't help but to think that that person is not that much fun at parties either. The comment is generic, lame, lacks originality and is overused much like calling someone a Karen. I am not entirely sure if this is unpopular but with that being said I seem to see it getting used daily and the comments always seem to generate a heap of upvotes, likes, and laugh reacts so here I am and this is my Unpopular Opinion. For some time now I have thought about why do I not enjoy going to parties and whether that make me weird. I'm young man, below drinking age and waiting to do it legally, so I have problem to enjoy company of even my friends when they are drunk. Hell, I don't even like staying all night. Is it normal? Is there any MBTI explanation for this? It is an insult, a stupid one, because:
I mainly see it used whenever someone tries to use logic in their comment or prove to be knowledgeable. It is basically insulting intelligence on the premise it is not fun. It basically tries to dumb down people so we are all the same.
It assumes everyone find fun in the same activities. Fun isn't a socially agreeable thing. No matter how much you try to push something not everyone will think it is funny. Not everyone likes parties, getting drunk untill they feel sick, hooking up and so on and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you want to insult someone at least find something truly bad about them, not the fact that they proved not to be an idiot or don't enjoy what you do. I see this phrase used a lot, mainly on social media and particularly on Facebook, usually in the context of a debate or a back and forth conversation in where one party is trying to put forth a potentially unpopular argument, and I often see this phrase used as a cheap throwaway line.
For example today I was debating with someone on Facebook as to why it's unethical to lie on your resume to get a job, and someone, who hadn't even been in the conversation prior piped up and commented "Ohhhhh, I bet you're so much fun at parties".
Like, what was the actual point of commenting that?, the subject matter we're debating would almost never come up in a party setting, and it's a bit of an assumption to try and say that just because I'm taking a particular stance on a social issue I've got no ability to be fun at parties.
It's a ridiculous statement, and I've never understood why it's used. It doesn't further any particular position, it's just a statement, a pointless, meaningless statement.
