Do u believe that being a nice person will get u stepped on ? 鉁煠斺湪 馃ゾ
Greetings ladies and gentlemen. Sit down for a minute. Mr [b]Z[/b] wants to talk to you about something important. It's called being [b]nice. [/b] How many of you here have been too[b] nice [/b] to people only to be stepped on and forgotten. Maybe you have been [b]overlooked[/b] or [b]taken advantage of[/b] simply for being [b]nice. [/b] You thought that the person would at least be considerate because of your [b] generosity.[/b] But it turned out to be the exact opposite. How does that make you feel ? To know that you did all of that for nothing. It was all done in [b]vain. [/b] And now perhaps you trust noone because you have been let down so many times. You're [b]numb.[/b] You're [b]guarded.[/b] And you just don't care anymore. How many of you here can relate to what I am saying here today . This post has been inspired by [b]Nerdy Potato [/b] 馃. Are you tired of being [b]nice.[/b] Best answer wins. 馃檪鉁ㄢ湪
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Nice people are often codependent and have other issues than "just being nice" that attracts bad intentioned people in their lives. So I would say that being nice in by itself doesn't make one stepped on but the lack of establishing boundaries and a bunch of other important factors that are in play. It's not always like this, there are also "nice but manipulative" people as well in which their niceness is a cover for exploitative behavior so nice doesn't always mean benevolent.
So my opinion is that I would say that being nice is needed in a world that is just so dark with so much anger because I don't think it's healthy being either super nice/passive or super mean/violent. Both of those are extremes that kind of attract bad things in ones life due to the energy imbalance.
The problem with "nice" people is that the super nice people are usually the ones who either can't say no, establish boundaries or don't really know people all that well. There's often underlying issues like trauma, codependency, bad environmental dynamics and also not really having the chance to have an identity in the first place to get that firm grasp on things.
I believe that being nice is needed but also I equally believe that establishing boundaries, working through trauma, learning to know/trust yourself rather than others and learning when to let go basically solves this issue. It's more of a holistic approach.
