Do u believe that being a nice person will get u stepped on ? ✨🤔✨ 🥾
Greetings ladies and gentlemen. Sit down for a minute. Mr [b]Z[/b] wants to talk to you about something important. It's called being [b]nice. [/b] How many of you here have been too[b] nice [/b] to people only to be stepped on and forgotten. Maybe you have been [b]overlooked[/b] or [b]taken advantage of[/b] simply for being [b]nice. [/b] You thought that the person would at least be considerate because of your [b] generosity.[/b] But it turned out to be the exact opposite. How does that make you feel ? To know that you did all of that for nothing. It was all done in [b]vain. [/b] And now perhaps you trust noone because you have been let down so many times. You're [b]numb.[/b] You're [b]guarded.[/b] And you just don't care anymore. How many of you here can relate to what I am saying here today . This post has been inspired by [b]Nerdy Potato [/b] 🥔. Are you tired of being [b]nice.[/b] Best answer wins. 🙂✨✨
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Ahhh, this is something i have spent years deliberating over.
I was brought up on basic christian values, and being the youngest prolly developed a bit of a co- dependent personality to feel valued and noticed.
Long story short, i learnt: ' you can give too much of yourself, that it becomes the only way you value yourself' ....and how others value you as well.
I also learnt that when we give so much, we kind of expect others to give a bit back. And theres the rub....you can become resentful when they dont .
So i practised being selfish, saying no, etc. But i didn't like that either. I started becoming someone i didnt like.
As much as i feel ive been taken for granted in my life, i also accept part of the blame for allowing it to happen, over and over again.
As with all things , its a balance of : caring for others, but also caring for ones self.
Ultimately, in the end , i decided i prefer to be giving, to help, to do stuff for people - its my nature, and its kind. But i am more careful now [i]how[/i] much i give, what my boundries are, and have a shorter 'giving window'. Also, try to make sure when i give, i do it with no expectation.
Plus, ive learnt to ask for help if i need it, elimiate expectations of perfectionism.....and try to learn to do things [i]for me[/i].
The hardest thing to accept was, i got walked over becuase i allowed it.
@OogieBoogie There's a balance. Just be cautious. Use your intuition. Love yourself. And give only to those who have earned your trust. Happy Holidays.⛄⛄⛄
