Do u believe that being a nice person will get u stepped on ? ✨🤔✨ 🥾
Greetings ladies and gentlemen. Sit down for a minute. Mr Z wants to talk to you about something important. It's called being nice. How many of you here have been too nice to people only to be stepped on and forgotten. Maybe you have been overlooked or taken advantage of simply for being nice. You thought that the person would at least be considerate because of your generosity. But it turned out to be the exact opposite. How does that make you feel ? To know that you did all of that for nothing. It was all done in vain. And now perhaps you trust noone because you have been let down so many times. You're numb. You're guarded. And you just don't care anymore. How many of you here can relate to what I am saying here today . This post has been inspired by Nerdy Potato 🥔. Are you tired of being nice. Best answer wins. 🙂✨✨
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Ahhh, this is something i have spent years deliberating over.
I was brought up on basic christian values, and being the youngest prolly developed a bit of a co- dependent personality to feel valued and noticed.
Long story short, i learnt: ' you can give too much of yourself, that it becomes the only way you value yourself' ....and how others value you as well.
I also learnt that when we give so much, we kind of expect others to give a bit back. And theres the rub....you can become resentful when they dont .
So i practised being selfish, saying no, etc. But i didn't like that either. I started becoming someone i didnt like.
As much as i feel ive been taken for granted in my life, i also accept part of the blame for allowing it to happen, over and over again.
As with all things , its a balance of : caring for others, but also caring for ones self.
Ultimately, in the end , i decided i prefer to be giving, to help, to do stuff for people - its my nature, and its kind. But i am more careful now how much i give, what my boundries are, and have a shorter 'giving window'. Also, try to make sure when i give, i do it with no expectation.
Plus, ive learnt to ask for help if i need it, elimiate expectations of perfectionism.....and try to learn to do things for me.
The hardest thing to accept was, i got walked over becuase i allowed it.
@OogieBoogie There's a balance. Just be cautious. Use your intuition. Love yourself. And give only to those who have earned your trust. Happy Holidays.⛄⛄⛄
