Have you ever dealt with a nightmare neighbor, what do you think?
Hi gang- I need some perspective. I own a townhome that is 8 years from being paid off at 3.25%. It’s affordable and efficient, and I anticipate that I’ll have all the money I’ll need to renovate it going forward. On the other side of my 2×6 firewall, a one-inch gap, and another 2×6 firewall is my nightmare neighbor. She is a single mom of 3 young kids. They have always been noisy, but when the pandemic shutdown began, the noise shifted well past 10 p.m. On top of that, I believe she has narcissistic personality disorder and perhaps some anti-social tendencies, so for the past two and a half years, she has either outright made ridiculous levels of noise (throwing things against the wall for 20 minutes straight or blasting music) to harass me at all hours of the night or “leaned in” when slamming doors and dresser drawers, many of which are up against our common wall. I would also not be surprised if she cut into her own drywall (or removed a wall outlet) to eavesdrop, and I believe I caught her doing this once. I’ve tried a lot of remedies including white noise and earplugs. Before I discovered some particularly effective earplugs, I had to wear normal foam earplugs and make the white noise as loud as a vacuum cleaner to drown out the thumps from next door. I’ve also tried talking to her (she lies), yelling at her (she denies), and the end result of me trying to fight fire with fire is that she called the cops (which I had also done many times) and that landed me a harassment charge, to which I basically had to plead guilty and follow a 90-day no contact order. I will also have to pay 9 months from now to get that expunged. (Some bullshit here is that the police filed it as a domestic violence charge even though I don’t live with her and have never dated her, which are the two conditions for DV offenses in my state). Being made chronically tired certainly hampered my efforts and decision making in dealing with the problem effectively. Also, there’s been an element of disbelief or denial on my part because… who acts that way? I’ve largely had a posture of waiting and waiting for things to stop and just they never do.
Recently, I decided the the sleep deprivation was too much, so I moved out and am renting a room on the cheap from a friend and continuing to pay my mortgage. (Thankfully, I can afford to do both.) Before I can do anything with the townhome, it needs paint, new floors, and new window treatments. I am moving at turtle-pace getting those things done, mostly because I am DIYing the paint and agonizing over flooring choices due to 2002-era honey oak cabinets that, to me at least, are not a great match for many of today’s laminate looks.
I can’t say I’m satisfied living in my friend’s room. I’m really too used to being on my own. It’s surprising to me how uncomfortable that adjustment has been. I’ve also had some wicked insomnia of late, and there are other environmental noises that aren’t aggravating or malicious but also don’t represent such a marked improvement over what I had before.
Another factor—I live 25 miles from work, and the head boss in my small office will be retiring by January 2023. I might get the top job, or someone who I refuse to work for again might get it, so I don’t necessarily want to buy a new home until I see how all that shakes out. If I got the top job, I’d move closer to work and stay put for 15ish years until retirement, but if not, then most comparable jobs in my market would be on the other side of town. Another financial consideration and a small dream—if I paid off the mortgage in 8 years then I’d easily have money to maintain a the summer cabin I’ll be inheriting with my sister. So my options are to 1. sell, 2. rent (as a property, it is a good rental and would cashflow even if I pulled out some equity), or 3. move back in, rely on earplugs and the expensive noise canceling headphones I impulsively ordered the other day, and play a long game of reporting her to the city and calling on my neighbors to witness incidents in progress for the purpose of getting her cited for violating noise ordinances, maybe taking her to small claims court ($10k limit), or possibly getting her charged with harassment. I’ve been finding it really difficult to let go of the property, which is a bit silly because I have done practically nothing with it for the last eight years that I’ve lived there (I had it rented for nine years previously). It’s home, but not a home I love. Anyway, as you can see, I’ve built this scaffolding of thought. I have been changing my mind three times a day, basically, so I really have no idea where to land. Plus, I’m just effing tired. What do you all think? What is your worst experience with bad neighbours? What are your worst nightmare neighbour conflict stories? What's the worst "neighbour from hell" behaviour you've witnessed? People who've had 'bad neighbours', what was your experience like of living next to them?
I've often & even quite regularly seen users comment that their neighbours are particularly bad for multiple reasons, be it:
Unnecessarily/unseasonably noisy
Regular host of all-night parties
Annoying kids
Being very nosy, always in other peoples business
Drug dealers bringing trouble to the area
Just wanted to make a post to get other peoples experiences of what their bad neighbours were like and what your experience of dealing (or not) with them was like? Did you manage to escape, did they move or get thrown out? In my experience I've had two bad neighbours at two very different places. First lot were massive family, constantly wall pounding music 24 hours and often hosted weekend-long parties. Their kids would often hurl abuse at passers-by and throw items at peoples houses. They ended up getting evicted after not paying rent for 7-8 months, the court fees for the landlord were apparently ridiculous. Second lot, funnily enough are my current neighbours are again a medium sized family who love to just host parties every weekend, even throughout the lockdowns! Music will be playing from 6PM all the way to 3am at-least one day per weekend, but then you won't hear anything else from them all week. Normal volume music I wouldn't even mind, but when you can hear it on the other side of the house with various old 1950's walls in-between us and they insist on screaming at early hours, it's a bit of a piss take :D Have you ever had (or even been!) a 'neighbour from hell'?
Not really too bad in the grand scheme of things but my neighbour has been listening to 'Someone like you' by Adel on repeat for 2 weeks. I don't think that they are ok. Hey everyone. Back again. In need of some advice. I’ve written here a few times about my bad neighbors who blast loud music for hours and start parties at 2am and go on until the morning. I’ve called police anonymously once, set up security cameras, and sent incident report to property management.
I bought a house last year and get along with all my neighbors except one. I try to just ignore him most of the time, but I think he is one of those people who has know everyone's business. One day he'll be super friendly and the next he'll be yelling and cussing at us for something stupid. He has some medical issues so he doesn't work. I mostly just see him messing around in his yard or garage while drinking. He's not terrible...just more annoying and rude than anything. Anyway, that's my bad neighbor. I welcome your suggestions for dealing with him.
I’ve noticed lately I’ve been more angry and upset about the situation some nights. If I see them in my camera or I see one of their guests harassing us through our camera I get very upset. Im talking crap about them inside my house to my husband and just venting about it. Im just wondering how can I cope with this anger or how can I let go of the anger I have towards these horrible neighbors? I feel the anger is draining me and I’m tired of my family seeing me so upset about situation I really have no power or control over. I’ve been living here for 7yrs and I use to be a sweet, nice person. Now I feel I’ve turned into an angry, sad person always upset and angry about my living situation and life. What can I do to ease my anger? How can I distract myself from thinking about these people when I live next door to them? Who were the worst neighbors you've ever had? What did they do to make them so horrible? A while back (in Queensland, Australia), a friend of mine moved in next door to some guys that are like loudmouth wannabe bikies/bikers. Both parties immediately took a disliking to one and other and had a few arguments over the fence in the ensuing months.
Anyway after almost a year into living at this place, it's a hot day and my mate had a few people over for a BBQ and a beer or two. The neighbours are also in their backyard with a few people that day, and there are few words said at some stage between the two groups, but nothing major. Later in the afternoon mate ends up getting like pretty fuckin pissed/drunk and decides to scoop up some dogshit from the back lawn and dip it in batter and fry it up, then proceeds to plate it up with some other foods and passes it over the fence to the unfriendly neighbour. The guy is fairly tipsy by then too, and is all smiles and thanks my mate and they go back to drinking. Fast forward a few minutes and this guy must have bitten into one of the special fried treats and he starts heaving and spitting and then so does one of his friends. They're like dropping onto the ground, spitting and gagging and yelling out that my mate had put shit in their food, and within like 20 seconds they're all coming over the fence and it's fucking on hahaha. There was like an all-in brawl in the back yard for a good five minutes and I am literally laughing so fucking hard that my legs won't even hold me up, like I'm gonna die from lack of breath. A guy is trying to bash me at one stage and I can't even fight back because I'm dead from laughter, I just had to try and cover my face and shit up. It was seriously the funniest thing I've ever seen in my life to this day. Anyway, there were a few blood noses and black eyes, but everyone lived to fight another day and my buddy ended up moving to another town not long after that, but yeah...fuck me that was like the greatest thing I've ever seen, fond memories 😂
Recently, I decided the the sleep deprivation was too much, so I moved out and am renting a room on the cheap from a friend and continuing to pay my mortgage. (Thankfully, I can afford to do both.) Before I can do anything with the townhome, it needs paint, new floors, and new window treatments. I am moving at turtle-pace getting those things done, mostly because I am DIYing the paint and agonizing over flooring choices due to 2002-era honey oak cabinets that, to me at least, are not a great match for many of today’s laminate looks.
I can’t say I’m satisfied living in my friend’s room. I’m really too used to being on my own. It’s surprising to me how uncomfortable that adjustment has been. I’ve also had some wicked insomnia of late, and there are other environmental noises that aren’t aggravating or malicious but also don’t represent such a marked improvement over what I had before.
Another factor—I live 25 miles from work, and the head boss in my small office will be retiring by January 2023. I might get the top job, or someone who I refuse to work for again might get it, so I don’t necessarily want to buy a new home until I see how all that shakes out. If I got the top job, I’d move closer to work and stay put for 15ish years until retirement, but if not, then most comparable jobs in my market would be on the other side of town. Another financial consideration and a small dream—if I paid off the mortgage in 8 years then I’d easily have money to maintain a the summer cabin I’ll be inheriting with my sister. So my options are to 1. sell, 2. rent (as a property, it is a good rental and would cashflow even if I pulled out some equity), or 3. move back in, rely on earplugs and the expensive noise canceling headphones I impulsively ordered the other day, and play a long game of reporting her to the city and calling on my neighbors to witness incidents in progress for the purpose of getting her cited for violating noise ordinances, maybe taking her to small claims court ($10k limit), or possibly getting her charged with harassment. I’ve been finding it really difficult to let go of the property, which is a bit silly because I have done practically nothing with it for the last eight years that I’ve lived there (I had it rented for nine years previously). It’s home, but not a home I love. Anyway, as you can see, I’ve built this scaffolding of thought. I have been changing my mind three times a day, basically, so I really have no idea where to land. Plus, I’m just effing tired. What do you all think? What is your worst experience with bad neighbours? What are your worst nightmare neighbour conflict stories? What's the worst "neighbour from hell" behaviour you've witnessed? People who've had 'bad neighbours', what was your experience like of living next to them?
I've often & even quite regularly seen users comment that their neighbours are particularly bad for multiple reasons, be it:
Unnecessarily/unseasonably noisy
Regular host of all-night parties
Annoying kids
Being very nosy, always in other peoples business
Drug dealers bringing trouble to the area
Just wanted to make a post to get other peoples experiences of what their bad neighbours were like and what your experience of dealing (or not) with them was like? Did you manage to escape, did they move or get thrown out? In my experience I've had two bad neighbours at two very different places. First lot were massive family, constantly wall pounding music 24 hours and often hosted weekend-long parties. Their kids would often hurl abuse at passers-by and throw items at peoples houses. They ended up getting evicted after not paying rent for 7-8 months, the court fees for the landlord were apparently ridiculous. Second lot, funnily enough are my current neighbours are again a medium sized family who love to just host parties every weekend, even throughout the lockdowns! Music will be playing from 6PM all the way to 3am at-least one day per weekend, but then you won't hear anything else from them all week. Normal volume music I wouldn't even mind, but when you can hear it on the other side of the house with various old 1950's walls in-between us and they insist on screaming at early hours, it's a bit of a piss take :D Have you ever had (or even been!) a 'neighbour from hell'?
Not really too bad in the grand scheme of things but my neighbour has been listening to 'Someone like you' by Adel on repeat for 2 weeks. I don't think that they are ok. Hey everyone. Back again. In need of some advice. I’ve written here a few times about my bad neighbors who blast loud music for hours and start parties at 2am and go on until the morning. I’ve called police anonymously once, set up security cameras, and sent incident report to property management.
I bought a house last year and get along with all my neighbors except one. I try to just ignore him most of the time, but I think he is one of those people who has know everyone's business. One day he'll be super friendly and the next he'll be yelling and cussing at us for something stupid. He has some medical issues so he doesn't work. I mostly just see him messing around in his yard or garage while drinking. He's not terrible...just more annoying and rude than anything. Anyway, that's my bad neighbor. I welcome your suggestions for dealing with him.
I’ve noticed lately I’ve been more angry and upset about the situation some nights. If I see them in my camera or I see one of their guests harassing us through our camera I get very upset. Im talking crap about them inside my house to my husband and just venting about it. Im just wondering how can I cope with this anger or how can I let go of the anger I have towards these horrible neighbors? I feel the anger is draining me and I’m tired of my family seeing me so upset about situation I really have no power or control over. I’ve been living here for 7yrs and I use to be a sweet, nice person. Now I feel I’ve turned into an angry, sad person always upset and angry about my living situation and life. What can I do to ease my anger? How can I distract myself from thinking about these people when I live next door to them? Who were the worst neighbors you've ever had? What did they do to make them so horrible? A while back (in Queensland, Australia), a friend of mine moved in next door to some guys that are like loudmouth wannabe bikies/bikers. Both parties immediately took a disliking to one and other and had a few arguments over the fence in the ensuing months.
Anyway after almost a year into living at this place, it's a hot day and my mate had a few people over for a BBQ and a beer or two. The neighbours are also in their backyard with a few people that day, and there are few words said at some stage between the two groups, but nothing major. Later in the afternoon mate ends up getting like pretty fuckin pissed/drunk and decides to scoop up some dogshit from the back lawn and dip it in batter and fry it up, then proceeds to plate it up with some other foods and passes it over the fence to the unfriendly neighbour. The guy is fairly tipsy by then too, and is all smiles and thanks my mate and they go back to drinking. Fast forward a few minutes and this guy must have bitten into one of the special fried treats and he starts heaving and spitting and then so does one of his friends. They're like dropping onto the ground, spitting and gagging and yelling out that my mate had put shit in their food, and within like 20 seconds they're all coming over the fence and it's fucking on hahaha. There was like an all-in brawl in the back yard for a good five minutes and I am literally laughing so fucking hard that my legs won't even hold me up, like I'm gonna die from lack of breath. A guy is trying to bash me at one stage and I can't even fight back because I'm dead from laughter, I just had to try and cover my face and shit up. It was seriously the funniest thing I've ever seen in my life to this day. Anyway, there were a few blood noses and black eyes, but everyone lived to fight another day and my buddy ended up moving to another town not long after that, but yeah...fuck me that was like the greatest thing I've ever seen, fond memories 😂
