Have u ever been in a domestic violence relationship before? 🤔 🛑
Or have you ever seen or witnessed someone in a violent relationship in your lifetime. Hello ladies and gentlemen. How are you doing today? October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Every day there are people all around the world who suffer at the hands of an abusive partner. And none of these types of situations end on a good note. The cycle does not end. Have you ever been involved in an abusive relationship before. Was it physical ? Was it verbal? Was it emotional? How did you escape it out alive. Or maybe you know somebody who is in an abusive relationship right now. Tell us your story please. There's always a way out. Life goes on. Thank you. 🙂
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Well.. it took me a while to break the generational trauma cycle so I’ve actually been in a few abusive relationships. Each one was a little less abusive than the last. Took me a while to realize that my grayscale perception of abuse and The amount of BS I would rationalize away was a result of trauma, not any sort of strategy that would ever lead to a healthy relationship or just.. healthy way of life/state of mind for myself.
In the beginning I was around 16. I saved whatever money I could then reached out to safe people who were willing to give me shelter while I reestablished my footing.
One time I needed an actual agency to connect me to resources to get reestablished.
Sometimes it required the police.
When I was in the middle of learning how to not date any more abusive people I made a promise to myself that my home/income would always be mine, so that relationship ever went South they at least didn’t have that power over me.
Really, what it came down to Resembles Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Eventually I had a home no dumbass could threaten to take away. I made up my mind to go back to school/volunteer work/career related trainings etc., which at times exes interfered with, but I never let them completely derail me. I continued to focus on healing, addressing generational trauma issues, and rebuilding my self-esteem to where I became a person who I like.
Once I liked myself and I liked what I was doing with my life I was far less vulnerable to the Peckings of abusive, manipulative people. And… One day I was fed up with it entirely. It was like a dream that I ever allowed anyone to treat me like that and nothing they could say made me second-guess myself anymore that it was unacceptable behavior.
..I wanted to be happy. I was finally ready to start making choices across the board that would make me happy and stop accepting ’ it’s complicated‘.
Stating the obvious, hoping miserable situationships/relationships would somehow turn into good relationships or lousy guys would somehow turn into good partners did not make me happy overall lol..
Everything got better after that little by little.
