Have u ever been in a domestic violence relationship before? 🤔 🛑
Or have you ever seen or witnessed someone in a violent relationship in your lifetime. Hello ladies and gentlemen. How are you doing today? October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Every day there are people all around the world who suffer at the hands of an abusive partner. And none of these types of situations end on a good note. The cycle does not end. Have you ever been involved in an abusive relationship before. Was it physical ? Was it verbal? Was it emotional? How did you escape it out alive. Or maybe you know somebody who is in an abusive relationship right now. Tell us your story please. There's always a way out. Life goes on. Thank you. 🙂
Well.. it took me a while to break the generational trauma cycle so I’ve actually been in a few abusive relationships. Each one was a little less abusive than the last. Took me a while to realize that my grayscale perception of abuse and The amount of BS I would rationalize away was a result of trauma, not any sort of strategy that would ever lead to a healthy relationship or just.. healthy way of life/state of mind for myself.
In the beginning I was around 16. I saved whatever money I could then reached out to safe people who were willing to give me shelter while I reestablished my footing.
One time I needed an actual agency to connect me to resources to get reestablished.
Sometimes it required the police.
When I was in the middle of learning how to not date any more abusive people I made a promise to myself that my home/income would always be mine, so that relationship ever went South they at least didn’t have that power over me.
Really, what it came down to Resembles Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Eventually I had a home no dumbass could threaten to take away. I made up my mind to go back to school/volunteer work/career related trainings etc., which at times exes interfered with, but I never let them completely derail me. I continued to focus on healing, addressing generational trauma issues, and rebuilding my self-esteem to where I became a person who I like.
Once I liked myself and I liked what I was doing with my life I was far less vulnerable to the Peckings of abusive, manipulative people. And… One day I was fed up with it entirely. It was like a dream that I ever allowed anyone to treat me like that and nothing they could say made me second-guess myself anymore that it was unacceptable behavior.
..I wanted to be happy. I was finally ready to start making choices across the board that would make me happy and stop accepting ’ it’s complicated‘.
Stating the obvious, hoping miserable situationships/relationships would somehow turn into good relationships or lousy guys would somehow turn into good partners did not make me happy overall lol..
Everything got better after that little by little.
Yes, unfortunately. Unfortunately I experienced some horrible things in my childhood until my mother got us all away from my father. As an adult. Emotional/physical but once he went past Emotional to the physical is when my fight/flight instinct kicked in and i was able to get myself out of that relationship and never looked back
Yes it took me years to get away from him as he stalked me despite being in a new relationship himself. He said if he couldn't have me then no one else could. He was eventually arrested but even now, years later, he still does things to let me know he is watching me.
I was in one a very long time ago. Very scary situation. I’m doing fine now. I rarely think about it but there still are triggers that bring on major anxiety for me even though I know I am safe.
About all I've ever witnessed first hand was, when I was a kid, about 10 yrs old, we were playing outside on the driveway, and the next door neighbor came from around his house dragging his baby's mama by the hair and attempting to through her out of the house and into the street. As a kid I was a bit terrified because he was actually a nice man, but alcohol can make the nicest people act differently. I can't say drugs were involved, even looking back now, I don't remember any signs of that.
Pray All those who have commented here, lead a peaceful life.
Let any abuse Not reach you, anyone related and also Not related to you anymore coz very rare are the ones who won't take undue advantage of your love and 'givingness'. Most are opportunistics awaiting a slave to Say or Do whatever in whichever discipline of life - professional or personal.
Carve your own niche wherever you go and Never ever regret for the path you all keep choosing coz all new journeys have stemmed out of your evolutionary ladder to lead you further above. Best.
SW-User
My step father was a very violent man.
He would grab me around the throat and throw me up against a wall. He once broke a door down I was trying to press shut.
I once however broke three of his ribs defending myself 😁 ✌️
It ended when I gave my mum an ultimatum to put a stop to it, an ultimatum I had to repeat when he struck my daughter. I basically told her to control him or lose me.
Yep! Ex boyfriend threatened to blow my head off, made me climb out of his window instead of allowing me to use his front door, chased me around my car in an attempt to attack me, broke my cell phone….one night we went out and when he wasn’t looking, I slipped away with the help of a friend.
