If your friends make a mistake or are feeling down on themselves, what do you do for or say to them?

Do you usually treat yourself the same way when you have failed? Why or why not? Are you too hard on yourself when you make a mistake? Do you simply notice that you’ve deviated from your expectations or goals and forgive yourself? Or do you tend to degrade yourself and endlessly ruminate on minor missteps? Why do you think you act the way you do? How does doing so make you feel? Have you ever practiced self-compassion — being kind and understanding with yourself when confronted with a personal flaw or failure? If so, what was that experience like? If not, why not? In your experience, which approach has been most helpful to you: self-compassion or self-shame? Which one makes you more productive and motivated? Can you give an example from your own life? Which tips from the article for being kinder to yourself have you practiced? Which ones would you like to try? Why?