What exactly does “friends with benefits” mean?
I get the “benefits” part, but is there actually a friendship part? Would you just call them to chit chat or grab a cup of coffee? It seems like I might be in this situation but I’m not really sure. Dating someone long distance and we agreed it will never be permanent (I want kids, he doesn’t), but we like hanging out and have fun together, especially when it comes to sex. Is this essentially FWB? How do you feel about "friends with benefits" situations? Have you/would you have one? What have been your experiences with them? I hate the whole concept. I think if you're friends, and you start having sex, and you keep having sex long enough, eventually one or both of you is going to get hurt. Then you won't be friends anymore. What are your thoughts on friends with benefits? Does it work? Can you make it work? What’s your experience with a ‘friends with benefits’ type of relationship with a girl?
Recently got into this type of relationship with a girl and I want to have some advice and an idea of what I’m in for in the long run of it. Friends with benefits/casual relationship - what’s your story? How long did it last? Has anyone caught feelings? How did it end? Is there anything that you regret? Maybe something you’ve learnt? I (22F) am fully convinced that FWB is the easiest way to make yourself feel like absolute shit. Had to cut off my FWB (22M) today because I fully deeped that I was literally sleeping with someone who only saw me as good enough for sex, and nothing more than that. I really thought I could do it because I do get horny at times but don’t think I’m ready to be in a relationship.
I gave myself so many pep talks on how I was going to be emotionless before I got into the situation and then went on to catch feelings like the dumb ho that I am. Like how do you guys regularly sleep with someone without catching any feelings? How do I get to that point? Time and time again I am seeing that this may not be possible for me.
It’s so annoying and idiotic that I don’t want a relationship myself, yet am upset that this man doesn’t see me as relationship material. I think I’m upset because for men, 90% of the time, “I don’t want a relationship right now” just means “I don’t want a relationship with YOU”. Why did I start FWB with a guy I would make an exception to my “no dating rn” rule for, but would not make an exception to his “no dating rn” rule for me? Looks like it’s back to vibrator life again 😭😭
Recently got into this type of relationship with a girl and I want to have some advice and an idea of what I’m in for in the long run of it. Friends with benefits/casual relationship - what’s your story? How long did it last? Has anyone caught feelings? How did it end? Is there anything that you regret? Maybe something you’ve learnt? I (22F) am fully convinced that FWB is the easiest way to make yourself feel like absolute shit. Had to cut off my FWB (22M) today because I fully deeped that I was literally sleeping with someone who only saw me as good enough for sex, and nothing more than that. I really thought I could do it because I do get horny at times but don’t think I’m ready to be in a relationship.
I gave myself so many pep talks on how I was going to be emotionless before I got into the situation and then went on to catch feelings like the dumb ho that I am. Like how do you guys regularly sleep with someone without catching any feelings? How do I get to that point? Time and time again I am seeing that this may not be possible for me.
It’s so annoying and idiotic that I don’t want a relationship myself, yet am upset that this man doesn’t see me as relationship material. I think I’m upset because for men, 90% of the time, “I don’t want a relationship right now” just means “I don’t want a relationship with YOU”. Why did I start FWB with a guy I would make an exception to my “no dating rn” rule for, but would not make an exception to his “no dating rn” rule for me? Looks like it’s back to vibrator life again 😭😭
