Do u believe it's ok for a man to hit a woman "if" it's self defense ? 🥊

Now some of you may have already seen this video right here recently. Its sad right ? So many people out here giving in to that negative energy that I was talking about before. And some are so sucked in that they cannot help but be this way.
What we have here are two issues that should and could be addressed. One here we have an African American male.
Second we have a Caucasian [b]Latina female. Ok here we go again. You have gender and then you have race.
In this video you see the woman actually hitting the man first. He is the employee, she is the customer. What do you think ?
Did he have a right to hit this woman back ? Or should he have just reported her to the authorities instead. Now you all know how I feel about domestic violence. I do not think it is fine for a man to hit a woman. But I do realize that you can't just run up to people and start attacking them out of nowhere for no reason at all. Some people will hurt you, do you understand me. Are we clear ? Good. What do you think about this ? Do you believe that it is ok for a man to hit a woman if it is self defense only. Yes or no. Explain why please. Best answer wins. 🙂

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Should be avoided at all costs.

Yes there are certain times where it's necessary. Yet I see men hitting women at the least provocation, not even attempting to think. Many men use that as a way to not think about the situation and just react.

It's that reaction frame of mind that is wrong.

Not giving women a excuse either. Women as well don't think.

Separating yourself from the situation is far far better for both men and women. And it doesn't matter what gender they are.

This goes for men on men or women on women as well.

Can't say how many times that I have walked away from a "possible" fight.

Sharon · F

@DeWayfarer

Should be avoided at all costs.

Even at the cost of a man's life?

Yet I see men hitting women at the least provocation.

Really? IME it's far more common to see women hitting men at the slightest or even no provocation.

Not giving women a excuse either. Women as well don't think.

At least you recognize that women can be just as violent as men.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Sharon

1 I'm not giving women a excuse. Yet that rarely happens. How do I know? I once took in an actual murderer. Of course I didn't know it. Yet how she reacted after I let was a darn good example of how justified I was in just leaving the house.

2 all I can say is I have rescued far more women than men from violent situations. This is purely based on experience. In Wyoming it was quite common. And why I took in so many women.

I have yet to hit any women!!!

3) avoidance works with men as well.
My father was a violent person. Actually why my mother divorced him. Yet I took care of him despite his violent tendencies.

I took care of him until he passed away in a hospital. RIP 😞

Sharon · F

@DeWayfarer

I can say is I have rescued far more women than men from violent situations. This is purely based on experience.

As I said, my experience is exactly the opposite. The only genuine domestic abuse survivors I know are men who were abused by their wives.

A "real man" thug tried rescuing my friend from her husband when they were playing about. He bit off a lot more than he could chew. She left the little piece of shit battered and bloody in the gutter, wimpering like a little child. Her husband just stood there laughing at him. :)

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Sharon I have lived all over this country! From California to New Port News Virginia. From Wyoming to Texas.

I still have yet to hit a any women. I'm 63 years old! And I have known violent women! That murdering women wasn't the only violent woman that I lived with.

Another got so drunk that she started to accusing men of all kinds of wanting to get into her pants.

The only way I could defuse the situation is to clear out the whole darn party. And I was as sick as a dog!

Think before reacting!

Sharon · F

@DeWayfarer That's your country, I'm in the UK. You're lucky if you've never been attacked by a woman, not even slapped. Not many men can honestly say that.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Sharon can't say I was never slapped. Was as a child. And by babysitters as well as my own mother.

Yet that could be how I learned to avoid such situations. No kid wants to slapped or hit by their own mother.

Mom was a alcoholic. I also took care of her before she passed away.

Sharon · F

@DeWayfarer A slap is still assault and battery according to law. Why should it be OK for a woman to assault a man like that?

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Sharon it's not ok.

Yet that doesn't excuse any from not thinking. Men or women.

Learn to think. Far too many don't want to think. So they react instead.

This is not a gender issue. It's a society at large issue that is far reaching.

Sharon · F

@DeWayfarer

This is not a gender issue.

I disagree. The only factor a lot of the respondants here consider is her sex.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Sharon the one thing I am not, is a follower. I could care less about the crowd.

What matters is the reasoning. So what that they have the same reasons?

The crowd 60 years ago was just as totally wrong! Both gender and race was the issues then. It's no different now.

Step back now to the 1920s. And look at the same issues. A man could legally hit his wife as well as a black man. Some black men didn't even know that they were free of slavery.

Unthinking react is still unthinking reaction. We are in desperate need of over coming it.